So what do you want to do today? Well, no plans really.
Do you want a relationship? I don’t know.
What are your goals? I’m not really sure.
This is something I am a pro at being: indecisive. I can’t decide what movie to watch, where we should eat, what I want out of relationships.
Here is something that I have realized- if you don’t decide for yourself what it is that you want you leave your future in the hands of someone else. Now, with movies or something I really am indifferent to, I couldn’t care less, but when it comes to how I spend my days and my relationships it’s a whole different story.
I used to have the “go with the flow” mentality. It is a really good one to have in many cases. However, this mentality does not work if there is something that you truly want deep down.
I never sat down and pictured what it was that I truly wanted. So, I would let others decide for me. In the end, I would only get hurt because you can lie to others about what you want but you can’t lie to yourself.
So, one day I did it. I took the time to think about what I wanted my lifestyle to look like (the people I surround myself with, how I spent my mornings, etc.) and what kind of relationship I was looking for. These were things I had wanted for years, but never truly realized.
It has made a huge impact. Why?
I can communicate what exactly it is that I am looking for. So in relationships, if that person doesn’t want the same thing, then it just saved me months of heart ache.
I can decide exactly what I want my day to look like because I have made the decision to have certain things in my daily routines. I have decided on my priorities.
Remember: Some things in your life just aren’t up for negotiation and you need to decide what those things are.
It doesn’t make you stubborn or uptight. It means you know what you need in order to grow properly and ensure that you are putting yourself in healthy circumstances.
Thanks for reading. Don’t settle- make a decision.