Why Being Indecisive is Hurting You More than You Think

 

So what do you want to do today? Well, no plans really.

Do you want a relationship? I don’t know.

What are your goals? I’m not really sure.

This is something I am a pro at being: indecisive. I can’t decide what movie to watch, where we should eat, what I want out of relationships.

Here is something that I have realized- if you don’t decide for yourself what it is that you want you leave your future in the hands of someone else. Now, with movies or something I really am indifferent to, I couldn’t care less, but when it comes to how I spend my days and my relationships it’s a whole different story.

I used to have the “go with the flow” mentality. It is a really good one to have in many cases. However, this mentality does not work if there is something that you truly want deep down.

I never sat down and pictured what it was that I truly wanted. So, I would let others decide for me. In the end, I would only get hurt because you can lie to others about what you want but you can’t lie to yourself.

So, one day I did it. I took the time to think about what I wanted my lifestyle to look like (the people I surround myself with, how I spent my mornings, etc.) and what kind of relationship I was looking for. These were things I had wanted for years, but never truly realized.

It has made a huge impact. Why?

I can communicate what exactly it is that I am looking for. So in relationships, if that person doesn’t want the same thing, then it just saved me months of heart ache.

I can decide exactly what I want my day to look like because I have made the decision to have certain things in my daily routines. I have decided on my priorities.

Remember: Some things in your life just aren’t up for negotiation and you need to decide what those things are.

It doesn’t make you stubborn or uptight. It means you know what you need in order to grow properly and ensure that you are putting yourself in healthy circumstances.

 

Thanks for reading. Don’t settle- make a decision.

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5 Habits That Have Changed My Life

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When I used to think of “becoming the best version of myself” I imagined that drastic lifestyle changes had to be made. I wanted to become super healthy? cut out all sugar, only eat veggies, and work out 1 hour a day. I wanted to become smarter? read a book a week and study all day.

Looking back, I have to LAUGH. How unrealistic. These drastic lifestyle changes were first of all very unenjoyable and secondly, unsustainable.

I would have weeks where I would abide by super strict rules to achieve my goals, something would set me off, and then all rules would go out the window. I would do exactly the opposite of what I had been forcing myself to do the week before. Trust me when I say this was not pretty. Then I would feel guilty, and start the whole process over again.

What a way to live..a giant rollercoaster.

So, what does this story have to do with the habits that have changed my life? Well these small habits have made me realize that in order to grow into a better version of myself, I don’t have to rip off an arm. I can enjoy the process of becoming healthier and smarter without torturing myself. Who would have thought?

So here are the small habits:

Meditating once a day- I am no expert on meditation, and maybe what I do isn’t technically considered “meditating” but hear me out. I take times in the day to do absolutely nothing. I find the best time to do this is in the morning before starting my day. I sit and think about the day to come. What will my day look like? What am I excited about? I ask these questions and just breathe until I’m ready to carry out the day. Its amazing what a difference it has made for me.

Waaalkinnnngggg- I try to go on a daily walk (and I don’t beat myself up when it doesn’t happen). It feels good to be out in fresh air. I either walk in silence or while listening to a podcast. This feels like another form of meditation for me while getting in some exercise. I write notes on my phone because this is also a great time to reflect and debrief.

Asking more questions- How do people learn? We ask questions! There is so much to learn from others that we miss out on because we simply do not ask enough questions.

Writing– I love to attend events and what I have been doing lately is bringing a journal with me. It helps me remember what was said, what I thought, and what was felt. Looking back on notes can help with sparking creativity and inspiration in the future as well.

Podcasts- I know I bring them up a lot but I have to include them. As humans, our minds need to be constantly fed information. That’s just how we are wired. Being able to learn something new while commuting or while cleaning your house is so cool to me. Podcasts also help me out of ruts. There are probably thousands of inspirational podcasts out there and they have helped me, on multiple occasions, out of a slump.

What small habits have you included in your daily practices that have changed your life? I’m curious to know and thanks for reading!

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Let’s Empower Other Women

This is something that has been so incredibly prominent in my daily life now more than ever.

So much so that I have joined a Women in Business Club, joined a couple of Girl Boss Blogging Groups, etc.

It’s easy, as women, to see other women as a threat or competition, but in reality we should be working together.

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As I am becoming a young professional, I’m beginning to realize that we need to encourage each other more and more. Joining new groups has opened my eyes to how much potential we have for change.

Today, in the Women In Business meeting I attended, the topic of conversation was:

“Let’s Be Real- About Our Fears”

In this conversation, we discussed our big picture goals and the fears that come with striving for them.

For me, I have always been concerned with the “work/life balance”. Being in this group, it was comforting to know I was not alone in this worry. Many other women voiced the stress that comes with thinking about having a family while striving to become a successful career woman. Other women talked about their choice not to have children and the negative comments that they have received from voicing this. Sadly, these are things many women worry about.

So, being in a group with ambitious women and being able to have open conversations with each other about our dreams and fears is huge. We all have fears and knowing that you have an amazing support group who mutually encourages each other makes working through them much easier.

I want to end this blog post with a Ted Talk that was introduced at the beginning of the meeting. Just some food for thought and advice from the chief operating officer of Facebook and founder of Leanin.org. Definitely check it out!

 

Tomorrow I will post about Podcasts that are based around empowering women- I have been obsessed lately!

Thanks for reading. Let’s inspire and encourage each other today.

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