On Following your Dreams

You have pages and pages of things you want to do, places you want to see, and goals you want to achieve. It’s all so exciting and awesome, but then at the end of the day, you realize you have done nothing to get there. Your words and thoughts don’t align with your actions and routine. Months pass and you realize all these things will only ever be dreams because you don’t have the time, money, resources, etc.

Does this sound like you?

Almost everyone I’ve met has been here-including myself. In conversation, you talk about your passions and all the ideas you have and at the end of it all you go home to do things that don’t align with your words what-so-ever and wonder why you are unsatisfied.

“words mean nothing when your actions contradict”

You can talk about how in-shape you want to get, how many friends you want to make, and how much money you want to in your bank account, but if you never actually do anything to get there how can anything actually happen?

I used to have a habit of saying all the things I wanted to do, but made every excuse under the sun at to why it wasn’t the right time.

What made me change this habit?

Having Role Models. I began to observe people who I wanted to become like. This is huge! Who’s success do I admire? What do they do differently than myself? How do they carry themselves? Why do I admire this person? How can I learn from this person?

– take this person for coffee

– do research on this person

– reach out to them online

What have I learned after talking to my role models? They aren’t smarter or luckier than me (like I had previously thought), they just spend their time differently. This made working towards my dreams less scary.

Remember that you are enough- you probably just don’t have enough information yet on how to get to where you want to be- that’s why learning from someone else is so important.

Whoever you want to learn from will be flattered that you are inspired by them, so don’t be nervous to reach out!

Surrounding myself with other dreamers. Similar to having role models- surround yourself with people who have similar goals and a growth mindset. These people will change your outlook on life and success, but make sure you are returning that energy back as well.

Friendship is a two-way street- be the friend you want to have.

1-Hour. It is said that it takes 10,000 hours to perfect something. If you’re not willing to dedicate AT LEAST an hour a day to get yourself closer to your goals, are you really invested in achieving them?

Alone time. I used to be so scared of being alone that I would make sure I never was. I would plan to spend time with my friends every single minute until I was ready for bed. Every activity from grocery shopping, homework, to working out- I had to have someone with me. It’s healthy to be social, but not to the point where you don’t know who you are when you’re alone.

Now, I make sure I give myself alone time to reconnect with myself, remember my goals, and plan what I will do to make sure I can get to where I want to be.

Picturing my ideal self. This past weekend, when I was talking to a close friend, she shared with me how someone she knew passed away recently. She said: “during her memorial, her friends said that she was the type of person to always follow through on her word. It made me think that I need to be more conscious of my effect on others and it made me question what kind of energy I want to project onto this world”.

What do you want to be known for? How will you put it into existence?

 

Are there any habits you have embedded in your daily routine that have helped you achieve your goals? I would love to hear them. Thanks!

 

A Moment to Check-in with Yourself

It’s so easy to get so caught up in our busy schedules that we forget to take a moment to ourselves. Like Oprah says, “the greatest gift you can give yourself is time”. There are many ways to interpret this quote and they all make sense. You should give yourself time to heal, improve yourself, and time to reflect. Today, I want to focus on the reflection piece. I think we all know that reflection is good for the soul, yet we rarely make it a daily practice.

Reflecting can have a number of benefits. When we are so consumed in small details and daily tasks, we often forget the bigger picture. This can result in a loss of motivation, satisfaction, and can cause us great amounts of stress.

So today, I want to prompt a brief reflection. Grab a notebook or just think about the answers to these questions:

What do I hold sacred and how do I express it?

Is it your relationships? Your profession? Pets? Spirituality? It can be anything and it doesn’t have to be just one thing. Make a list.

What do I like about my character?

Don’t be modest! Truly, what values do you hold that you are proud of?

What can I do for myself today?

Your greatest investment is yourself! What will you do/ have you done today that shows yourself love. It can be going to the gym-investing in your health, it can be taking a long bath, learning something new, going to bed early, etc.

How can I make a difference in someone else’s day today?

Doing things for others makes us happy! Are you going to bring a coffee to a coworker who helped you out yesterday? Will you compliment someone? Little things like this go a long way. Start noticing the positivity that surrounds you and return that energy back onto others. And remember that you don’t have to bend yourself backwards to do something nice.

 

Happy reflecting! Today is your day.