Take Care of What You Already Have

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In the age of consumerism, we are constantly being fed new trends and technologies that make us feel a need to stay current. Instead of working with what is already in our possession, we take it for granted while lusting after the new and shiny thing that is someone else’s. This mindset spills over into other aspects of our lives.

So here is your reminder to take care of what you already have:

Belongings: How many times have you bought something, worn it once, then tossed it to the side? I’m guilty. Clothes feel so much better when worn for the first time. If you feel like this, I urge you to go into your closet and re-organize it. Hang your clothes in a new way, wash your old shoes, untangle your jewelry, clean out your old backpacks and bags. Love them. Re-invent your outfits. It is possible to get excited about what you already own. Appreciate it all because that new accessory you want to buy will become old just like everything else in your closet.

Relationships: “I miss when everything was new, the honeymoon stage.” How many people in long-term relationships have you heard say this? A problem occurs in one of your relationships so you seek out something/ someone new. Take care of your existing relationships. Nourish them. Just like planting a flower, the first bud may be exciting, but if you keep watering and caring for it, it may become even more beautiful than you could’ve ever imagined.

Your Body: It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others, but in the midst of trying to change your body and make it look more this or that, stop and think of how much your body does for you. Be grateful for your body right now. It is exactly what it needs to look like. It is worthy of care and love just the way it is.

The Importance of Intentional Interactions

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Have you ever thought about a conversation you had with someone and wished you could take back what you had said? Why did I say that? What’s wrong with me?!

Well, we’ve all been there and let’s face it- that regret can eat us alive. We want to be the best versions of ourselves and with that comes having healthy relationships with others.

Think back to a time when you had a great interaction with someone that left you feeling so good about yourself. Likely it was because you were present in the moment and feeling like you were genuinely connected to the other person.

So how can we have more of these energizing interactions? For me, these following tools have been helpful:

Always see yourself as a contributor: Just because you are not the focus of attention in an environment, that does not mean your energy doesn’t play a part in the collective space. What kind of messages are you giving others, verbally or non-verbally? How is it making others feel?

Question yourself before and after you enter a new space: How do I want to affect others? How will I achieve this? If you want to make others feel listened to, how will you make sure you are doing that? If you want to help others feel confident, what kinds of things are coming out of your mouth?

Pause before speaking: What is the purpose of me saying what I am about to say? Is it based from my own fears or a place of genuine love? How will this potentially be received by the person I am talking to and is it worth that outcome?

The more intentional we are with what we say and do, the less likely we are to regret saying things in the spur of the moment and the more our relationships thrive.

Do you have any techniques in place that help you be more intentional when you interact with others?

2 Lessons in Taoism

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What would we do with out suggested YouTube videos?

The other day I was on the elliptical searching for apartment inspiration on Youtube. On the suggested list under the video, there was one on the practice of Taoism. For whatever reason, I was intrigued and decided to watch.

The video went through the practice and common misconceptions of Taosim. After watching the 10 minute video, there were two seeds of wisdom from the video that stuck with me:

Many problems solve themselves

It’s almost comical to think of how many stages in our life we thought we would never survive and now they are just an afterthought.

Forget about the desired result and focus on the task at hand

How often do you fall into this? Instead of focusing on getting the dishes being done, enjoy the process of washing each one.

A Job that’s Meant for You

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Who do you seek out when you are going through a hard time?

What types of practices do you have in place when you are going through it?

When we feel pain, often times we try to avoid it. Drown it out by finding quick fixes that temporarily push out our thoughts. They keep coming back.

We can reach out to all of our friends and family and pray that they will never leave our side until we feel better, but even if they were to do this, in the end we will have to face being alone.

We must go through it to go through it.

Only we can make ourselves feel better. This is no one else’s job. It’s ours.

Question the actions you are taking when you are upset or things didn’t go the way you had planned:

Why am I doing this? Will this make me feel better in the long run or is this a quick fix?

What activities have brought me healing in the past?

It’s okay to feel the pain and hurt now. Take time to listen to yourself and your body. Re-find yourself. Take the time to take care of yourself because you are worthy.

Thanks for reading.

XO,

coco

Why We Need to Remember to Take Baby Steps

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Would you expect a baby to be able to run a marathon?

I really hope you answered no.

Have you ever been at your desk or laid in bed at night thinking about all the things you had to get done? Picturing your to-do list can be really and truly scary.

I need to email ____ …Oh and I have to finish these assignments.. I forgot to call___… The application for ___ is due tomorrow… AHHHH !!!

This self-talk looks almost identical to the one I replay internally nearly everyday. You too?

Usually when I have these overwhelming feelings, I look for inspiration. Sometimes I find it and sometimes I don’t.

Lucky for me and those reading, this time I found exactly what I needed to hear.

I came across a TedX called “How to Achieve Your Most Ambitious Goals.” Please watch it if you haven’t already done so.

The speaker in this video has achieved unimaginable things. He forced himself into the Guinness Book of World Records for something that previously wasn’t a topic in it. He participated in the most difficult half marathon, learned how to speak German, read 50 books, hiked 33 trails in a year, and the list goes on.

This guy is super accomplished, right?

What’s his advice? Little steps.

How can you climb to the top of the mountain if you don’t take the first step?

How can you read 50 books if you don’t read the first chapter, sentence, word?

He suggests that instead of drastically changing our routines and habits that we add small changes to get there.

To learn German, he dedicated his commute time in which he usually listened to music, and switched the audio to the lessons.

What small actions can you make to bring you closer to your goals or to crossing off everything on that to-do list?

Don’t let the height of the mountain intimidate you. Take your next step and focus. Progress is still progress.

You won’t get everything done if you don’t start by getting the first thing done.

Baby steps.

Your Sunday To-Do List

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“A Sunday well spent brings a week of content”

Sundays are the most important day of the week- in my opinion. How I spend my Sunday  determines what my attitude will be towards the upcoming week.

I have found that my weeks are the best when my Sunday to-do list looks a little something like this. Try it out:

1. Cleanse

Take this day to focus on you. Take a long shower, wash your face, hair mask. Listen to a feel-good playlist. Cleanse all the stresses from the past week off your body and mind.

2. Organize/ Clean

Wake up tomorrow to a clean house. Take the time to clean today. Don’t make this a rushed activity, but one that you enjoy by lighting candles, opening windows, and dancing.

3. Meal Prep

Now, this one is one I sometimes forget to do (or make excuses as to why I am not going to). Don’t put off grocery shopping for two weeks and resort to quick meals!!! (lol me). Plan meals for the next few days, cook them, and make them easy to grab on your way to work/ class.

4. Draw up a To-Do List for the Week

Make it pretty! Get excited about what you have going on this week. Include easy and small things too, so you will feel good crossing them off. I write things like “coffee” and “class” because having things that are automatically checked-off with little effort gives me more motivation to finish out the rest of my checklist.

5. Catch Up

Today you have time. What do you need to do to be caught up for the upcoming week, or better yet, what can you do to get ahead?

5. Reflect

My favorite. How will you reflect today? Church? Meditation? Going for a walk? Reading a book/ writing? What type of reflection will make you feel the most renewed for the upcoming week?

 

Happy Sunday! Make it a good one

 

 

 

A Moment to Check-in with Yourself

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It’s so easy to get so caught up in our busy schedules that we forget to take a moment to ourselves. Like Oprah says, “the greatest gift you can give yourself is time”. There are many ways to interpret this quote and they all make sense. You should give yourself time to heal, improve yourself, and time to reflect. Today, I want to focus on the reflection piece. I think we all know that reflection is good for the soul, yet we rarely make it a daily practice.

Reflecting can have a number of benefits. When we are so consumed in small details and daily tasks, we often forget the bigger picture. This can result in a loss of motivation, satisfaction, and can cause us great amounts of stress.

So today, I want to prompt a brief reflection. Grab a notebook or just think about the answers to these questions:

What do I hold sacred and how do I express it?

Is it your relationships? Your profession? Pets? Spirituality? It can be anything and it doesn’t have to be just one thing. Make a list.

What do I like about my character?

Don’t be modest! Truly, what values do you hold that you are proud of?

What can I do for myself today?

Your greatest investment is yourself! What will you do/ have you done today that shows yourself love. It can be going to the gym-investing in your health, it can be taking a long bath, learning something new, going to bed early, etc.

How can I make a difference in someone else’s day today?

Doing things for others makes us happy! Are you going to bring a coffee to a coworker who helped you out yesterday? Will you compliment someone? Little things like this go a long way. Start noticing the positivity that surrounds you and return that energy back onto others. And remember that you don’t have to bend yourself backwards to do something nice.

 

Happy reflecting! Today is your day.