Letting Go

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Just let it go

As most advice we are given, easier said than done.

Books and spiritual healers tell us the key to happiness and inner peace is to let go, but what exactly does that mean?

Let go of what is no longer serving you- that thought, belief, idea. Let go of that story you tell yourself where you are the victim.

Let go of the need for control. The more we feel the need to control a situation or another person, the more unhappy we find ourselves. The mentality is addictive and unhealthy. We do not own others. What they do is up to them as what we do is up to us.

What you do have control over is your contribution to any given space or relationship. Notice your thoughts. Question them frequently. Is this true or is this a story that is taking from my well-being?

Approach everything with a kind heart and watch your life flourish. Do it all out of love. What isn’t falling into place isn’t for a reason.

When we have the best intentions, give others the freedom to be themselves and aim to contribute to their happiness as well as our own, we become fully in alignment.

You can do it- let it go.

Diving into A More Focused Life

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As our lives become busy with the demands of work, relationships and other obligations, we begin to live in autopilot. Our lives become routine and before we know it, we don’t have enough time or money to do anything that we actually want to do.

A few weeks ago, I felt myself falling into this trap. I was in a habit of mindlessly scrolling through my phone, waking up later than usual, and throwing away all discipline when it came to my health. I blamed it all on “being stressed” and “not having enough time.”

Have you ever told yourself that same story? Here are some techniques I recommend you try:

1. Limit/ eliminate social media: 10 minutes of scrolling on instagram or 10 minutes preparing your lunch for the next day? An hour on facebook or an hour spending time with your loved ones? Think of the time you spend on social media and replace it with activities that feel meaningful to you. Turn your phone on airplane mode if you need to.

2. Create a schedule for your goals: Instead of just saying you will go to the gym 3 days this week, print out a calendar and write down the days you will be there. Adding your goals into your schedule makes it easier for you to stick to them than if you go each day deciding whether or not you want to work out.

3. Spend your morning doing things you enjoy: Do you feel rushed in the morning? Try waking up even just 10 minutes earlier to give yourself time to do something you thoroughly enjoy whether that be enjoying that cup of coffee or spending longer doing your hair. It will make a world of a difference.

4. Night routine: Do what tomorrow morning you will thank you for tonight. Plan the outfit, organize your work bag, clean your room. It will make waking up a lot easier and you will feel like you have your s*** together (even if you don’t ).

What techniques work for you to have a more focused life?

Thanks for reading,

Coco

What Works for You?

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Browsing on YouTube, I came across a video titled “the 12 habits that changed my life”. Expecting a list of habits that changed this person’s life, I was surprised when the narrator actually confessed that there weren’t 12 habits that actually changed his life but his perspective. He had dedicated his year to 12 different 30-day challenges from taking cold showers every day to waking up at 5a.m. Everyday.

What did he learn? Habits that are life-changing are different for everyone. Waking up at 5 a.m. actually didn’t make him more productive, journaling didn’t change him as much as exercising everyday. This does not hold true for everyone. Journaling may be life-changing for you, but like medication there is not a one size fits all solution.

Applying this to my own life, working out everyday is something I used to strive to do as I saw this habit transform the life of my friends and family, however, it has never been a sustainable habit. I know I can dedicate at least 3 days a week to the gym since fitness is important to me, but I have other priorities such as volunteering and creating things that I also value and need to make time for that allow for my soul to thrive.

So what habits are life-changing for you? Don’t be taunted by people who wake up at 5 a.m. and say this has been life-changing for them. This does not mean that it will be the same for you.

Test out new habits and see what works best for you. Maybe even try a few 30-day challenges and see what sticks and makes you feel like you are not only growing but enjoying yourself in the process.

Thanks for reading,
Coco

Are You Having Fun?

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I’m subscribed to Abraham Hicks daily quotes and if you are not, I highly recommend them. Their quotes reveal great truths and inspire me every day.

This morning, the quote they sent said this:

“…And if you know life is supposed to be fun, you know more than almost anybody else knows.”

When’s the last time you did something purely for fun? Not out of obligation? Or if it was out of obligation, what did you do to make it fun?

Yesterday morning the newsletter they sent said something along the lines of “by having more fun, the more productive you become”

Work hard, play hard. The more we do things out of pure enjoyment, the better we are at approaching our harder tasks.

Take a break from the go, go, go. Read a book not to increase your knowledge but to laugh or feel something.

Go for a walk, not to lose weight but to hear the sounds of the birds and feel the breeze.

Draw something. Not to prove your artistic skills, but to allow your soul to express itself.

Life’s not all about achievement, and ironically by having this perspective, you will achieve more and be less likely to burn out.

Food for Thought

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“Are you really hungies or do you just feel empty inside?” My friend read out loud from a tweet on our way to brunch. We all laughed.

The tweet which was comical, yet very relatable, and it re-visited my mind today.

I think back to social occasions where I’ve felt disconnected or uncomfortable and have turned to food hoping it would somehow fill the void.

Food is such an emotional thing- a temporary fix from a stressful day, an escape from loneliness or disappointment.

I find that when I’m going about my day with intentional alignment with my goals and purpose that I am less likely to emotional eat. I’m more inclined to eat more nourishing foods.

Like many bad habits, it’s so important to realize what triggers or excuses you use that cause them to continue.

Just something to think about.. Food for thought💭

Developing a Win-Win Perspective

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If I get the job, I win and if I don’t, I’m still winning.

What if your inner talk sounded like this?

How much happier would you be when things didn’t go your way?

The other day I had plans with a friend. We had the plans set in stone for weeks, and last minute, they canceled. I was bummed. It felt like a loss. I sat in bed thinking that my day was ruined. I sat in my misery and felt frustration fill my body. Then I paused and thought: how can I see this from a different perspective? I realized it had been weeks since I had alone time. I was going to make this a “me” day. I did all the things I had put off while being so busy entertaining friends and working. It was a win-win.

Wins can be lessons learned, a chance to do something new, a chance to appreciate an aspect of your life you take for granted.

Today decide that no matter what happens, you are winning.

Stop Passion Searching

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Haven’t found your true passion yet? Guess what? it’s okay.

Yesterday morning I got back into my old morning routine: I didn’t press snooze, prepared food for the day and went for a long walk while listening to an inspirational podcast.

The podcast episode: “The Curiosity-Driven Life” on SuperSoul Conversations with Oprah

The episode featured the author of Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert. Right away she tells us to stop searching for our passions. What? I thought she was crazy, but when we hear something controversial it makes us want to learn more, right?

She explained how she used to preach “follow your passion” until one day she received a Facebook message from a woman saying she didn’t have one, and that her speeches actually made her feel worse. It had never occurred to her that not everyone knew what their passion was their whole life as she had.

This challenged her view on life and people and now she has a new belief and speech;

There are hammers and there are hummingbirds.

Gilbert describes herself as being a hammer. Since kindergarten she’s known that she loves to write and has been writing ever since. Do you know people like this in your life? They have one true passion and have stuck with it since you’ve known them. I’ve always been envious of these types of people.

The other type of person she describes as being hummingbirds. I absolutely fall into this category. She said this type of person is always trying new things and exploring. She brings up her friend who has had several career paths in her life. If this is you, her advice is instead of searching for your “one true passion” just follow your curiosities. This takes the pressure off of having to stick to one thing. When we do this, we can enjoy and learn at our own free will. It’s not as serious as we have previously made it to be.

The beauty of a hummingbird

Hummingbirds cross-pollinate. As someone who has experienced and tried many things, you have the ability to take what you’ve learned in one place and apply elsewhere. Experience is wisdom.

In the podcast, Gilbert says that she is the person many people come to for counseling and advice. But she says that when she is in a rut, she calls her hummingbird friend. Her friend has lived through so much that she does not judge anyone for where they are in their life. And because she has experienced so much, she has wisdom to draw from many places to give great advice.

I really love that.

Are you a hammer or a hummingbird?

Thanks for reading.

XO,

Coco