Let’s Empower Other Women

This is something that has been so incredibly prominent in my daily life now more than ever.

So much so that I have joined a Women in Business Club, joined a couple of Girl Boss Blogging Groups, etc.

It’s easy, as women, to see other women as a threat or competition, but in reality we should be working together.

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As I am becoming a young professional, I’m beginning to realize that we need to encourage each other more and more. Joining new groups has opened my eyes to how much potential we have for change.

Today, in the Women In Business meeting I attended, the topic of conversation was:

“Let’s Be Real- About Our Fears”

In this conversation, we discussed our big picture goals and the fears that come with striving for them.

For me, I have always been concerned with the “work/life balance”. Being in this group, it was comforting to know I was not alone in this worry. Many other women voiced the stress that comes with thinking about having a family while striving to become a successful career woman. Other women talked about their choice not to have children and the negative comments that they have received from voicing this. Sadly, these are things many women worry about.

So, being in a group with ambitious women and being able to have open conversations with each other about our dreams and fears is huge. We all have fears and knowing that you have an amazing support group who mutually encourages each other makes working through them much easier.

I want to end this blog post with a Ted Talk that was introduced at the beginning of the meeting. Just some food for thought and advice from the chief operating officer of Facebook and founder of Leanin.org. Definitely check it out!

 

Tomorrow I will post about Podcasts that are based around empowering women- I have been obsessed lately!

Thanks for reading. Let’s inspire and encourage each other today.

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Your Sunday To-Do List

“A Sunday well spent brings a week of content”

Sundays are the most important day of the week- in my opinion. How I spend my Sunday  determines what my attitude will be towards the upcoming week.

I have found that my weeks are the best when my Sunday to-do list looks a little something like this. Try it out:

1. Cleanse

Take this day to focus on you. Take a long shower, wash your face, hair mask. Listen to a feel-good playlist. Cleanse all the stresses from the past week off your body and mind.

2. Organize/ Clean

Wake up tomorrow to a clean house. Take the time to clean today. Don’t make this a rushed activity, but one that you enjoy by lighting candles, opening windows, and dancing.

3. Meal Prep

Now, this one is one I sometimes forget to do (or make excuses as to why I am not going to). Don’t put off grocery shopping for two weeks and resort to quick meals!!! (lol me). Plan meals for the next few days, cook them, and make them easy to grab on your way to work/ class.

4. Draw up a To-Do List for the Week

Make it pretty! Get excited about what you have going on this week. Include easy and small things too, so you will feel good crossing them off. I write things like “coffee” and “class” because having things that are automatically checked-off with little effort gives me more motivation to finish out the rest of my checklist.

5. Catch Up

Today you have time. What do you need to do to be caught up for the upcoming week, or better yet, what can you do to get ahead?

5. Reflect

My favorite. How will you reflect today? Church? Meditation? Going for a walk? Reading a book/ writing? What type of reflection will make you feel the most renewed for the upcoming week?

 

Happy Sunday! Make it a good one

 

 

 

No Rainbows without Rain

Ever have one of those days when nothing seems to be going your way?

You wake up and your vibe is just ugh. You’re late to class/work, it’s a bad hair day, and you’re juggling the one million things on your mind. It almost feels like the world is setting out to frustrate you and is planning to give you any possible obstacle. And to top it off the person in front of you is driving 2 miles an hour.. FOR NO REASON! Then you come into work and meh- you would rather just be in bed. You begin to question how you’re going to get through it today.

You have two paths: Push through and ride out the day or throw it all up in the air and give up.

For me, today began as “one of those days”. I couldn’t seem to focus or be present in the moment. I sat at my desk and began to feel sorry for myself because it was 3pm and I still had a long to-do list. Commuting from one place to the another, I contemplated skipping all of my other obligations. I deserved it right? I had a rough day and did I forget to mention it started pouring rain outside? “Yup- it’s a sign, I’m going home” I thought to myself.

So, I got into my car and sat there watching the rain hit my dashboard- feeling all the emotions and then…. I took a deep breath and just drove. I went to the meeting, I finished the assignment, I checked off my to-do list. I did it. A dark cloud lifted.

Walking back to my car as the rain slowed, I felt renewed.

I looked up- a rainbow 

& then I remembered:

no rainbows without rain.

 

 

 

 

 

What’s Really Holding You Back?

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality”

Why do we let fear control our experiences when 99.9% of the things we worry about never end up happening?!

Can you imagine how different your life would be if your thoughts weren’t constantly  self-defeating?

While fear can be beneficial to us in some cases, like keeping us away from dangerous situations, it can also be damaging by preventing us from growing and living a peaceful life. Think about all of the opportunities you’ve missed by letting fear take over.

I think that the most inspiring people I’ve met seem to be fearless. They aren’t afraid to speak up, take risks, and can talk to virtually anybody confidently. How did they get to be this way?

Being curious, I listened to a podcast with a series of interviews about becoming fearless. One of interviewees, in the podcast, described how he got over one of his biggest fears- swimming. By the end of 3 months, he had not only learned how to swim, but ended up swimming two miles in the ocean. He describes how he felt in this moment: invincible. Not only did he conquer his fears, he mastered them. He explains how this experience led him to the realization that he had the capability to achieve much more than he had thought and that he had been letting fear limit his whole life.

At the end of the podcast, another interviewee revealed one of his strategies to overcoming his daily fears. He calls it fear-setting. His strategy has three parts:

Define, Prevent, Repair. 

He said that writing out your fears is key to putting them to rest. So, he has a journal where he divides his pages into define, prevent, and repair columns.

In the first column, he defines his fear. For example: “I won’t do well on my presentation next week”.

In the second, he writes what he can do to prevent this from happening like “I will practice 10 times this week”.

In the third column, he writes how he can repair the situation if the bad things happens anyways: “I will realize that I’m not perfect and there is room for growth”.

 

If you wan’t to learn more about the insights from this practice, look up Tim Ferriss. I believe he also has a Ted Talk that you can watch on the topic!

 

How an Inspiration Board Changed my Life + What I Included in it

At the beginning of every semester, I write a list of goals I want to accomplish. I write them in a notebook, shut it, and forget about them. By the end of the semester, I look back on these goals to realize I didn’t accomplish any of them. So what is my new approach that has already worked better in the three weeks that I’ve used it compared to the years I spent writing them in a notebook? Inspiration Boards.

What I Did:

I grabbed an unused poster board from my room and decided it would work. From here, I added 6 different things to create my inspiration board. Here’s a list of what I included and how they will help you:

  1. My ideal weekly schedule: It will help you picture exactly what you need to do in a week to get closer to your goals.
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  3. A list of every single goal I had whether I thought it was possible to accomplish or not. When you read them, they will be fresh on your mind and you will subconsciously attract things that help you get there.
  4. A monthly calendar: I use this as a chain calendar. How does it work? When you do what you’re supposed to do for the day example: you went to the gym, then you mark an “X” on the calendar date. This is proven to keep you motivated to follow through everyday because you will want to avoid losing your streak.photo
  5. Pictures: Visualize. Visualize. How can your dreams come true if you can’t visualize them? “every skyscraper was once a drawing or a vision, same for your dreams- they can’t come true unless you have a clear vision of what they look like” ba9a3f3222e8e4038dc55bcccbc49991
  6. A touch of Aesthetic. Make it cute so you actually want to look at it!

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Why has this worked?

I put the inspiration board somewhere where I know I will always see it: on my desk.

I look at it every morning and it reminds me that every single day counts in making my dreams come true. It ensures that my goals will not be forgotten. The quote and photos keep me motivated, the weekly calendar reminds me what I need to do to achieve these goals, and the monthly calendar holds me accountable.

 

I hope this  inspires you to make your own inspiration board. They are seriously life changing.

Also, let me know if you have any advice for other things that I can add to my inspiration board!