What’s your Life Blueprint?

You can imagine my disbelief when my friend, who is embarking her motivational speaking career, told our friend group that she had never heard of Tony Robbins. Excuse me. What?!

When I was in high school, I discovered Pinterest. This was the beginning of my obsession with motivational quotes which translated into watching motivational videos on YouTube. I remember one of the first motivational speeches I watched on youtube; it was given by Tony Robbins. I remember watching this video and then watching all of his videos and thinking to myself that he truly had life figured out.

Fast-forward a few years and I’m listening to a podcast, called Earn Your Happy, where the hostess, Lori Harder, interviewed someone who was once one of Tony’s interns. Omg I thought. Tony Robbins!

So, the other day I was browsing YouTube jumping around between different TED Talks, and one of the suggested videos was one by Tony Robins that was titled change your life blueprint.

I swear I had seen this video before, but it still resonated with me so much. In Tony’s speech, he explains that the reason why we are unhappy with ourselves is because our vision of what our life should look like doesn’t match what it really is.

We have these ideas of what the perfect relationship is in our minds or the perfect job or our perfect body and we compare this mental vision to our reality. This disconnect makes us feel depressed, unsatisfied, and can cause great amounts of anxiety.

Is this true for you? I know in my life I create ideals of where I should be in my career, what kinds of relationships are in my life, how much money I should have, and what I should look like.

Tony’s resolution? Either change you mental blueprint of what your life should look like or change your life to meet the blueprint. Realize what blueprints in your life are unrealistic and create new ones or alter them so they can match your life.

One person Tony talked about in the speech was an athlete who wasn’t able to play anymore due to physical injuries. This athlete became depressed and hopeless. He said he would never be happy again unless he was able to play the sport again. In his blueprint, the only way he would make his family proud and support them was through playing this sport. It wasn’t until he realized that he could create a new path for himself that he was able to find happiness again. This wasn’t the one and only way he could find success in his life. It was time to create a new blueprint for himself.

Even when we try not to, we are constantly comparing ourselves whether it’s to that vision of what our life should be like or to others. In the end, this comparison rarely does anything for us unless we reflect when we catch ourselves doing it.

I want to end this post with a quote I saw this morning posted by Jhene Aiko:

So, what is your current “life blueprint” what adjustments will need to be made?

Thanks for reading.

XO,

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Running Out of Things to Blog About?

It is so easy to write when you start your blog.

I remember the first two months of starting my blog, I was writing virtually every single day and sometimes even twice a day. I remember reading other bloggers posts saying things like “sorry I haven’t posted in a while, my new goal is to post once a week” I was like what! How could you not find things to write about?!

Then it happened- I got writer’s block. And the everyday struggle was thinking “What should I write about?”

Last week, I met with a freelance writer. She’s written for MSNBC, Refinery 29, and other very well-known publications.

When we got to chatting, I told her my problem:

“It was so easy writing when I started! But now I feel like writing less and less. I don’t even know what to talk about.”

Can you relate?

Well here’s the advice she gave me-

“Some of my favorite bloggers don’t even write everyday. They pick certain days to post. It’s about the consistency. Find the same day every week to post and find something unique to post about so people will be looking for your posts on that specific day every week.”

She showed me a blogger who literally just creates posts with links to her favorite articles every Tuesday. Like what?! I could do something like this. It sounds doable.

Find something that makes your blog unique and make it a weekly post.

I love this advice.

What do you do to ensure you have things to write about and don’t go MIA for months?

Let me know!

Thanks for reading.

3 Ways to Have a Happier And More Productive Day

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Ever have one of those days? The kind where you just can’t seem to focus. Every task throughout your day feels like a chore and every conversation just feels boring and drawn out.

I definitely have. In fact, I felt like that this morning. I sat in class and slouched in my seat. Can this day be over yet? I began to watch the clock.

Why did I feel like this today?

I thought back to the days when I felt all the energy and was excited about being productive.

What did I do differently?

It hit me.

The days when I’m happiest and most productive are usually the days when I do these three things:

Diving Deeper into: Love and Kindness Meditation

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In my “Curious About Guided Meditation? Here was my Experience .” blog post, I talked about how impactful the love & kindness practice portion felt- at one point it even had me in tears.

Since this day, I’ve been eager to learn more about this whole Love & Kindness Meditation thing: what it is, the benefits, and how to practice it on my own time. So here is what I’ve found-

What is LKM?

“Put most simply, Loving-Kindness Meditation (LKM) is the practice of cultivating the feeling of universal love – love for all beings, as opposed to personal or romantic love. This is typically done by directing well-wishes towards yourself and others. In Buddhism this is known as Metta, or compassion meditation.” Source here. 

Benefits:

Increases energy

Increases positive emotions & decreases negative emotions

Decreases migraines

Decreases PTSD

Activates & increase empathy

Increases compassion & social awareness

Curbs self-criticism

Better sleep habits

A calmer mind

Brightens complexion

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How to practice Love & Kindness Meditation in daily life

Here’s one method.

Begin by finding a quiet place, close your eyes, and begin by picturing yourself and say the following-

  1. May I be happy.
  2. May I be safe.
  3. May I be healthy, peaceful, and strong.
  4. May I give and receive appreciation today.

Once you have done this, think of someone you love. picture them in you mind’s eye, and say (in your head or out loud) the following-

  1. May you be happy.
  2. May you be safe.
  3. May you be healthy, peaceful, and strong.
  4. May you give and receive appreciation today.

Repeat this step for everyone you have ever loved, then for someone you feel neutral towards, then someone you don’t particularly like, and end this meditation with picturing the world and do the same.

More information about how to perform meditation here.

 

I hope you learned something new from this post.

This is definitely something I will be putting into practice in my daily life.

Thanks! 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

9 Tips on Having a Successful Event

Before the Event:

Tell People in advance

Even if you don’t have all of the details set up, let people know that you are thinking of having an event and what the general theme will be. You can send a flyer saying that more details are to come. This way people are already anticipating a follow-up and are getting excited about the event before you send out the rest of the information.

Make the invite personal

While you can send a general invitation, it is nice to send a personal note along with it. Something like “It wouldn’t be the same without you” or “I’m so excited that you are thinking of coming!”

Give enough information

Yes time, date and location are most important but what about size of the event, what  should they bring, what you will provide, and what the general dress code will be? It’s nice to come to an event knowing all of these details. It makes you feel comfortable and ensures that you don’t dress in a ballroom gown when everyone else is wearing jeans.

Get party favors + food

Remember when we were kids and the only thing that got us excited to go to birthday parties was receiving party favors at the end? (oh, and candy!) Well, I don’t think that ever really goes away. It’s fun to give out silly gifts to your guests because it makes them feel special. You don’t have to give a million dollar gift, but a little something to show appreciation for their presence goes a long way! And an event is not an event with out food.. don’t let your guests starve.

During the event

Introduce people

If your guests don’t all know each other- you should be introducing them! Offer them something to drink and let them chat it up.

Make sure everyone feels included

Take a look around. What’s everyone doing? If someone’s sitting in the corner make the effort to make them feel welcomed by offering them food, introducing them to someone they haven’t met yet, or just talk to them yourself! You can even play games to crack the ice and get more people involved.

Take Pictures!

Capture the fun moments, the food, the decorations, and the conversations.

Post event

Thank guests

Appreciation, again, goes a long way. The more appreciated someone feels at your event for taking the time to come- the more likely they are to go to your next event!

Send any pictures you have from the event

Who doesn’t love getting funny or cute pictures at the end of a night? You don’t have to send pictures right after they leave, but it’s always fun to receive pictures that other people took. So send them to your guests!

 

How an Inspiration Board Changed my Life + What I Included in it

At the beginning of every semester, I write a list of goals I want to accomplish. I write them in a notebook, shut it, and forget about them. By the end of the semester, I look back on these goals to realize I didn’t accomplish any of them. So what is my new approach that has already worked better in the three weeks that I’ve used it compared to the years I spent writing them in a notebook? Inspiration Boards.

What I Did:

I grabbed an unused poster board from my room and decided it would work. From here, I added 6 different things to create my inspiration board. Here’s a list of what I included and how they will help you:

  1. My ideal weekly schedule: It will help you picture exactly what you need to do in a week to get closer to your goals.
  2. A motivational quote: to spark your drive. Screen Shot 2018-09-15 at 12.16.20 PM
  3. A list of every single goal I had whether I thought it was possible to accomplish or not. When you read them, they will be fresh on your mind and you will subconsciously attract things that help you get there.
  4. A monthly calendar: I use this as a chain calendar. How does it work? When you do what you’re supposed to do for the day example: you went to the gym, then you mark an “X” on the calendar date. This is proven to keep you motivated to follow through everyday because you will want to avoid losing your streak.photo
  5. Pictures: Visualize. Visualize. How can your dreams come true if you can’t visualize them? “every skyscraper was once a drawing or a vision, same for your dreams- they can’t come true unless you have a clear vision of what they look like” ba9a3f3222e8e4038dc55bcccbc49991
  6. A touch of Aesthetic. Make it cute so you actually want to look at it!

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Why has this worked?

I put the inspiration board somewhere where I know I will always see it: on my desk.

I look at it every morning and it reminds me that every single day counts in making my dreams come true. It ensures that my goals will not be forgotten. The quote and photos keep me motivated, the weekly calendar reminds me what I need to do to achieve these goals, and the monthly calendar holds me accountable.

 

I hope this  inspires you to make your own inspiration board. They are seriously life changing.

Also, let me know if you have any advice for other things that I can add to my inspiration board!