I was talking to my aunt over the summer (feels like so long ago!) and one thing she said to me that has stuck was this:
“we don’t listen to ourselves enough”
I had never thought about this before. What do you mean by we don’t listen to ourselves enough? We are always with ourselves.
Only in the last month has this quote begun to make sense to me.
How often do you try to shut out certain feelings? Like you almost choose to believe these natural instincts don’t mean anything.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done this. I’ve stayed in situations too long because I chose to avoid that inner voice.
What if your gut feelings were actually trying to tell you something?
I choose to believe they are.
Listen to yourself!
What do you need in this moment? What was the first thing that came to your head? It must mean something.
For me, this has been spending time alone, taking the time to learn something new, and doing things that I am afraid of.
The more you listen to yourself, the more you will do things that align with your purpose. This alignment has brought me an abundance of happiness.
Don’t get me wrong- some days are harder than others, but on these days I realize that I just need to listen more.
Thank you for reading.
I wish you nothing but happiness and remember to just listen to yourself.
here are my favorite (mostly) for women podcasts. I have many favorites, but here are the ones I’ve listened to most recently.
Some of these have been suggested by friends and other bloggers, so thank you!
The first: Earn Your Happy (the one I’m currently listening to)
The second: Goal Digger
The third: Girls Gone Boss
Honestly, these three podcasts have pretty similar themes. They are guides to success and happiness. Each podcast is an interview with someone who followed their dreams and they talk about what their journey was like to get there. They offer great advice and insight. Super motivational and empowering. HIGHLY SUGGEST YOU LISTEN!
If you’re wondering when’s a good time to listen to a podcast here’s when I listen:
– during my commute to school
– on my daily walks (it makes them go by so quickly!)
– while working on projects
– when I need a boost of motivation
If you have any podcast suggestions, please send them my way.
I need new ones to listen to always.
Thank you for reading. Have an inspired day 🙂
I used to dread the question in conversation, “so, what do you do for fun?”
Um. What do I do for fun? Let’s see… Uh. I would reflect to the prior week and go through my daily run of schedule. Did I even do anything fun? The better question, did I do anything fun that I wanted to share about in conversation?
*One minute later*
“Umm.. I like to work out but you know school takes up a lot of time so I’m usually pretty busy with that”
While school does take up a lot of my time, it realistically doesn’t take up the 168 hours I have in a week.
One day, I came to the conclusion that: I need a hobby!!
So, what are the benefits to having a hobby?
- Hobbies have no deadlines and are pressure-free. The time you set out to do your hobby is simply meant for you to get in touch with your creative side, that’s it.
- They can be a break from your daily routine- Sometimes you just need to do something that doesn’t involve work.
- They make you feel productive. Most hobbies involve creating something and at the end of the day it feels satisfying to know that you worked on a project that has a physical result.
- You can talk about it in conversation & won’t have to dread the “what do you do for fun” question- not only that, but you may find that you have more similar interests with the someone than you had originally thought
- It’s an opportunity to learn more about yourself. “What about this hobby is satisfying to me?” “What inspires my creativity?” Answering these questions can change your life outside of your hobby.
Remember- You don’t have to be good at something for it to be your hobby. You just have to enjoy it, and that’s the beautiful part about having a hobby!
Trying to live your “best life”?
Many experts say that one of the keys to living up to your potential is to be self-aware. With out true self-awareness, it is difficult to grow as an individual. What does that mean? Let’s say you’re in a math class and no matter how hard you try you keep failing every assignment. It’s just not clicking. So, you decide to take a step back and reflect. You start to list the reasons why you’re doing so poorly: “I don’t try that hard, I suck at math, I’ve never been good at it, I’m just more of a science person.” After this pitty-party, you think to yourself “I just self-reflected.. Why isn’t this self-reflecting thing working? Why am I not getting better?”
Do you see a pattern in these self-reflections? They all ask the questions “why” A-Ha! What if instead of asking “why” you rephrased your questions to start out with “what“. So, instead of “Why am I bad?” you can ask “What am I not understanding?” or “What can I do differently on the next assignment?”
“What” questions give you a chance to answer more constructively. Instead of dwelling on your wrongs, they can force you to think logically versus emotionally. They can give you a growth perspective because they focus on what you can do in the future versus what you have done wrong in the past/ what you think is wrong with your character.
Here are some more rephrased self-reflection examples:
Instead of “why am I broke?” you can ask “what habits do I need to change to be more financially sound?”
Instead of “why are things not working with my significant other?” you can ask “what is not working well for us?”
These questions will help you achieve more self-awareness by removing emotional attachments.
“Self awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.”
FYI-This way of self reflecting did not come from me and I do not take credit for the idea. It is my own interpretation of a a piece of work with my own examples. The ideas in this post were taken from and inspired by a Ted Talk called:
“Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix- Tasha Eurich”
Check it out. Click the Link Here.