Designing your Dream Life in 2020

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As 2019 is coming to an end, we begin to consider our resolutions for the New Year.

It’s safe to say we all would ideally love to live our “dream lives” yet life and comforting excuses have continued to get in our way.

Going into our next chapter, 2020, it’s so important to reflect on the year that just happened. What did you accomplish? How did you grow? What were some of the best times and worst times? Why? What habits did you continue or start? What are you proud of? What lessons did you learn?

Now diving into your goals for 2020, consider the following:

What’s one word you would like to be the theme for 2020? I was talking with a friend who told me her vision for the year was “french.” To her this means living in simplicity, dressing modestly and eating more mindfully.

How will your day to day life look like? If you are already dreading your approach to your goals, it’s likely that you will give up before you achieve them. Fall in love with the process. Get excited about new habits and routines. Make them fun.

Use a habit tracker. One of my best friends got me a habit tracking journal for the new year. They are amazing tools to help you notice patterns within yourself and get you motivated to stay on track. Achieving mini-goals along the way helps you achieve our bigger goals.

If your 2020 was a chapter in a book, how would it be written? What character will you play? What kinds of adventures will you go on? Who will you meet? How will you affect the other characters? How will you transform- internally as well as externally?

Thanks for reading. I hope your 2020 is all you are dreaming of and more.

Happy New Year 🥳

The Importance of Intentional Interactions

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Have you ever thought about a conversation you had with someone and wished you could take back what you had said? Why did I say that? What’s wrong with me?!

Well, we’ve all been there and let’s face it- that regret can eat us alive. We want to be the best versions of ourselves and with that comes having healthy relationships with others.

Think back to a time when you had a great interaction with someone that left you feeling so good about yourself. Likely it was because you were present in the moment and feeling like you were genuinely connected to the other person.

So how can we have more of these energizing interactions? For me, these following tools have been helpful:

Always see yourself as a contributor: Just because you are not the focus of attention in an environment, that does not mean your energy doesn’t play a part in the collective space. What kind of messages are you giving others, verbally or non-verbally? How is it making others feel?

Question yourself before and after you enter a new space: How do I want to affect others? How will I achieve this? If you want to make others feel listened to, how will you make sure you are doing that? If you want to help others feel confident, what kinds of things are coming out of your mouth?

Pause before speaking: What is the purpose of me saying what I am about to say? Is it based from my own fears or a place of genuine love? How will this potentially be received by the person I am talking to and is it worth that outcome?

The more intentional we are with what we say and do, the less likely we are to regret saying things in the spur of the moment and the more our relationships thrive.

Do you have any techniques in place that help you be more intentional when you interact with others?

Stop Passion Searching

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Haven’t found your true passion yet? Guess what? it’s okay.

Yesterday morning I got back into my old morning routine: I didn’t press snooze, prepared food for the day and went for a long walk while listening to an inspirational podcast.

The podcast episode: “The Curiosity-Driven Life” on SuperSoul Conversations with Oprah

The episode featured the author of Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert. Right away she tells us to stop searching for our passions. What? I thought she was crazy, but when we hear something controversial it makes us want to learn more, right?

She explained how she used to preach “follow your passion” until one day she received a Facebook message from a woman saying she didn’t have one, and that her speeches actually made her feel worse. It had never occurred to her that not everyone knew what their passion was their whole life as she had.

This challenged her view on life and people and now she has a new belief and speech;

There are hammers and there are hummingbirds.

Gilbert describes herself as being a hammer. Since kindergarten she’s known that she loves to write and has been writing ever since. Do you know people like this in your life? They have one true passion and have stuck with it since you’ve known them. I’ve always been envious of these types of people.

The other type of person she describes as being hummingbirds. I absolutely fall into this category. She said this type of person is always trying new things and exploring. She brings up her friend who has had several career paths in her life. If this is you, her advice is instead of searching for your “one true passion” just follow your curiosities. This takes the pressure off of having to stick to one thing. When we do this, we can enjoy and learn at our own free will. It’s not as serious as we have previously made it to be.

The beauty of a hummingbird

Hummingbirds cross-pollinate. As someone who has experienced and tried many things, you have the ability to take what you’ve learned in one place and apply elsewhere. Experience is wisdom.

In the podcast, Gilbert says that she is the person many people come to for counseling and advice. But she says that when she is in a rut, she calls her hummingbird friend. Her friend has lived through so much that she does not judge anyone for where they are in their life. And because she has experienced so much, she has wisdom to draw from many places to give great advice.

I really love that.

Are you a hammer or a hummingbird?

Thanks for reading.

XO,

Coco

Trust the Timing of Your Life

Advice + Inspiration

Have you ever broken your phone, gotten rejected from a job, or been late to an important date because of traffic and thought why me god?

Let’s face it- no matter how good of people we are or how much we prepare for our futures, there will always be room for error and disappointment.

What about karma?!

Yes we still must remember that what we do onto others will be done to us in some form or another. Bad things will still happen.

Here’s the thing though- whether you see it now or not, it’s all adding to a bigger picture. There is a plan for you.

We try to force what happens in our lives. Quickly we realize that we cannot. Trust the timing of your life.

What lesson is the universe trying to teach you that is going to prepare you for the next chapter of your life?

So often people tell me stories of what they imagined their lives looking like versus what they ended up looking like. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I’ve been told the same thing- I never really planned for this to happen. My life just pulled me in this direction and somehow the dots just connected.

How amazing is that? If you are going through something right now it could be adding new dots for you. An ability to empathize with more people. A source of motivation to change the system. An idea for a new project.

What does trust the timing of your life mean?

Be patient. Breathe. Have faith. You are not alone. You are connected to a greater purpose. Believe it.

So if you wanted something badly, gave it all you had, yet it still didn’t work out, it just means it’s not for you. Something greater is ahead.

Trust the timing of your life.


Where Do You Belong?

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What’s your identity?

Is it defined by the books you read or the clothes you wear? Or maybe the people you surround yourself with?

As much as we hate to admit it, we often struggle with who we are.

I must be a fit person because I work out everyday.. but what if you don’t work out for a month? Would your identity change?

My identity must be defined by my family. What if your family comes from all over? You identify with everyone but at the same time with no one fully.

What if we could choose our identities? If we decided where we belonged and what we spent our time on. If our habits became our identity. If we could shape and change them daily.

How are your perspectives and attitudes shaping your identity?

Thanks for reading.

XO,

YOUNGCOCO