What Do You Choose To Believe?

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How do you connect and see the experiences in your life?

What is your role in your life story?

How did you get to where you are today?

Your answers to these questions are what you have chosen to believe.

How crazy is it that you can go through the same experience as someone else, yet neither of you will ever describe it in the same way?

Your life is your perception of it.

What is your story and how are you going to tell it?

How you view your past is telling of how your future will be. Do you feel that your past life experiences have been unfair? You will likely continue to feel this way about future experiences as well. You need to change your beliefs to change what you experience.

Did you know that there are millions of contradicting beliefs out there?

Which ones will you choose to believe?

The ideas that empower you or the ones that fit your pitty story?

Do you want to live guided by your hopes or fears?

 

Choose your beliefs wisely and have a happy day 🙂

Thanks for reading!

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Just Show Up

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Ahhh. This is the most difficult part though right? To just show up.

Have you ever agreed to do something and right up to the point where you know you have to go you just internally debate whether you should or not?

Just show up.

Don’t think about the details right now.

Just show up.

Today, this woman who came in to speak at the club I’m in said something that really resonated with me. She said this:

“Every day you create your brand. What you say you will do should align with what you actually do. Every day counts.”

Just show up.

ummm… Show up for?

Show up for your friends

“True friends are those who are there for your big moments and your bad moments”. Show up for the people you care about. It means more to them than you can ever imagine. Just your presence alone. Be there for the moments you wish they would be there for if you were in their shoes.

Show up for the promises you made

Do you ever make promises months in advance and when it nears the date you just feel like backing out? Don’t. Follow through. Maybe in the future you won’t agree to the same thing again, but be the person who is true to their word. It goes a long way.

And last but not least, show up for yourself

What do you want? What are your goals? Show up for them. Go to the gym if you want to exercise more. Commit to yourself. Take an hour to practice your art every day. Who do you want to be? Show up for it and make yourself proud. Your soul will thank you.

XO,

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Why Being Indecisive is Hurting You More than You Think

 

So what do you want to do today? Well, no plans really.

Do you want a relationship? I don’t know.

What are your goals? I’m not really sure.

This is something I am a pro at being: indecisive. I can’t decide what movie to watch, where we should eat, what I want out of relationships.

Here is something that I have realized- if you don’t decide for yourself what it is that you want you leave your future in the hands of someone else. Now, with movies or something I really am indifferent to, I couldn’t care less, but when it comes to how I spend my days and my relationships it’s a whole different story.

I used to have the “go with the flow” mentality. It is a really good one to have in many cases. However, this mentality does not work if there is something that you truly want deep down.

I never sat down and pictured what it was that I truly wanted. So, I would let others decide for me. In the end, I would only get hurt because you can lie to others about what you want but you can’t lie to yourself.

So, one day I did it. I took the time to think about what I wanted my lifestyle to look like (the people I surround myself with, how I spent my mornings, etc.) and what kind of relationship I was looking for. These were things I had wanted for years, but never truly realized.

It has made a huge impact. Why?

I can communicate what exactly it is that I am looking for. So in relationships, if that person doesn’t want the same thing, then it just saved me months of heart ache.

I can decide exactly what I want my day to look like because I have made the decision to have certain things in my daily routines. I have decided on my priorities.

Remember: Some things in your life just aren’t up for negotiation and you need to decide what those things are.

It doesn’t make you stubborn or uptight. It means you know what you need in order to grow properly and ensure that you are putting yourself in healthy circumstances.

 

Thanks for reading. Don’t settle- make a decision.

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5 Habits That Have Changed My Life

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When I used to think of “becoming the best version of myself” I imagined that drastic lifestyle changes had to be made. I wanted to become super healthy? cut out all sugar, only eat veggies, and work out 1 hour a day. I wanted to become smarter? read a book a week and study all day.

Looking back, I have to LAUGH. How unrealistic. These drastic lifestyle changes were first of all very unenjoyable and secondly, unsustainable.

I would have weeks where I would abide by super strict rules to achieve my goals, something would set me off, and then all rules would go out the window. I would do exactly the opposite of what I had been forcing myself to do the week before. Trust me when I say this was not pretty. Then I would feel guilty, and start the whole process over again.

What a way to live..a giant rollercoaster.

So, what does this story have to do with the habits that have changed my life? Well these small habits have made me realize that in order to grow into a better version of myself, I don’t have to rip off an arm. I can enjoy the process of becoming healthier and smarter without torturing myself. Who would have thought?

So here are the small habits:

Meditating once a day- I am no expert on meditation, and maybe what I do isn’t technically considered “meditating” but hear me out. I take times in the day to do absolutely nothing. I find the best time to do this is in the morning before starting my day. I sit and think about the day to come. What will my day look like? What am I excited about? I ask these questions and just breathe until I’m ready to carry out the day. Its amazing what a difference it has made for me.

Waaalkinnnngggg- I try to go on a daily walk (and I don’t beat myself up when it doesn’t happen). It feels good to be out in fresh air. I either walk in silence or while listening to a podcast. This feels like another form of meditation for me while getting in some exercise. I write notes on my phone because this is also a great time to reflect and debrief.

Asking more questions- How do people learn? We ask questions! There is so much to learn from others that we miss out on because we simply do not ask enough questions.

Writing– I love to attend events and what I have been doing lately is bringing a journal with me. It helps me remember what was said, what I thought, and what was felt. Looking back on notes can help with sparking creativity and inspiration in the future as well.

Podcasts- I know I bring them up a lot but I have to include them. As humans, our minds need to be constantly fed information. That’s just how we are wired. Being able to learn something new while commuting or while cleaning your house is so cool to me. Podcasts also help me out of ruts. There are probably thousands of inspirational podcasts out there and they have helped me, on multiple occasions, out of a slump.

What small habits have you included in your daily practices that have changed your life? I’m curious to know and thanks for reading!

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Own It

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There are so many things that I used to keep to myself because I was what? Afraid.

My whole school career was wasted saying nothing because I was afraid of sounding dumb. I never pursued my ideas because of fear of being judged. What is that? Sad.

I have friends who tell me excitedly about pursuing a dream. I get excited for them! We talk a few weeks later, and I ask about their pursuit. What do I hear? Every reason why it can’t happen. Why?

We let doubt and fear consume our minds. Ever share your goals with someone and they tell you every reason why it can’t happen for you? You let someone else’s fear and doubt consume your mind too! Just like that.

These thoughts sound something like-

“This industry is already oversaturated, I won’t make it.”

“It’s more work than I had thought. I just can’t”

“I don’t have enough money or resources”

etc. etc. etc.  etc.

My a**.

Here’s my advice: OWN IT.

Who are you? Own It.

What do you love? Own it.

What are your dreams? Own them.

Easier said then done right? Here’s something I want you to think about. What do you have to lose? Yourself- if you don’t own it.

Putting “Own It” into your daily practice is a conscious daily choice. For me, it has been joining groups that I was afraid of joining, asking the questions I used to be scared to ask, sharing ideas that have the potential to be rejected. Scary!!!! Omg. I have a mini heart attack almost every day.

But, you know what? The more doors you knock on, the more doors that will be opened for you. This is exactly what has been happening for me. So very worth it.

What does that mean?

No guts, no glory. You have to dare to be true to you and do what you know you need to do. Yes, you will be afraid- do it anyways.

Live your dream. No one got to where they wanted to be by being comfortable.

I saw a quote today that said “nothing changes without change”

So, what if you fail? Own it.

What if it doesn’t turn out how you wanted it to? Own it.

But what if it does?

 

I hope this post inspired you. Just Own It!!! (haha omg I feel like this sounds like a nike commercial.. well) Thanks for reading.

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The Power of a Phone Call

Ever since middle school, I have been obsessed with talking on the phone.

Throwback to the days when you would memorize all of your friend’s numbers because you called through your house phone. LOL. I remember being paranoid that my parents would hit the intercom to listen to my convos. I’m sure my conversations were super juicy.

Even today, a good phone call does so much. Sadly, so many of my loved ones are super far away. Scheduling time to talk or getting random calls from them is one of the jewels in my life.

It’s a great feeling to connect with my favorite people. In my busy day to day life, I forget about the deep connections I have with my life-long friends and family.

They are my motivation. They bring me so much energy and happiness. I wish nothing but the best for them and it’s a great feeling catching up and hearing what’s going on in their worlds:

future goals, travel plans, what they are facing day to day,

then we laugh at silly memories, reminisce, .

I am truly blessed and if you feel the same way about people in your life. Schedule time to talk to them now.

With physical distance, it’s so important to check on your loved ones. Make sure they are good.

A good phone call goes a long way. Especially when you are running low on motivation and are losing sight of purpose.

Hearing the voice of a loved one is good for the soul!

Make more phone calls.

Not texts.

 

Thanks for reading 🙂 This post was inspired by a phone call with my brother- I love you.

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