Food for Thought

health, mindfulness, Mindfulness

“Are you really hungies or do you just feel empty inside?” My friend read out loud from a tweet on our way to brunch. We all laughed.

The tweet which was comical, yet very relatable, and it re-visited my mind today.

I think back to social occasions where I’ve felt disconnected or uncomfortable and have turned to food hoping it would somehow fill the void.

Food is such an emotional thing- a temporary fix from a stressful day, an escape from loneliness or disappointment.

I find that when I’m going about my day with intentional alignment with my goals and purpose that I am less likely to emotional eat. I’m more inclined to eat more nourishing foods.

Like many bad habits, it’s so important to realize what triggers or excuses you use that cause them to continue.

Just something to think about.. Food for thought💭

Developing a Win-Win Perspective

Mindfulness, Uncategorized

If I get the job, I win and if I don’t, I’m still winning.

What if your inner talk sounded like this?

How much happier would you be when things didn’t go your way?

The other day I had plans with a friend. We had the plans set in stone for weeks, and last minute, they canceled. I was bummed. It felt like a loss. I sat in bed thinking that my day was ruined. I sat in my misery and felt frustration fill my body. Then I paused and thought: how can I see this from a different perspective? I realized it had been weeks since I had alone time. I was going to make this a “me” day. I did all the things I had put off while being so busy entertaining friends and working. It was a win-win.

Wins can be lessons learned, a chance to do something new, a chance to appreciate an aspect of your life you take for granted.

Today decide that no matter what happens, you are winning.

Falling in Love with an Idea

Advice + Inspiration, mindfulness, Mindfulness, relationships, Uncategorized

Have you ever fallen in love with the idea of something? My guess is that you probably have.

We fall in love with the idea of a person, a lifestyle, a career.

We want what we can’t have. Why? We are quick to assume that because we can’t achieve something, we aren’t worthy of having it. This means we fall in love with ideas because we believe they will make us feel worthy. So what do we do? We work to change ourselves in order to fit into someone who is. This can mean changing our values, working hard to please others, or doing things that we actually don’t like.

There’s nothing wrong with self-betterment. In fact, it’s great to have goals to work toward. However, it is important to realize why we have the goals we have. If we have them in order to receive external rewards, it might be a good idea to re-evaluate. The only outcomes and feelings we can control are our own.

Imagine that your goal is to get a job to impress others. You work tirelessly to become qualified for this position and once you receive it, you get the response you wanted- people are congratulating you and some are even calling you successful. What a feeling! A month later, this is no longer the topic of conversation, and you are left with a job that you don’t even like.

One of my good friends once told me, “I used to work so hard to prove myself to others until one day I realized that no one actually cares.” He’s right. When you think about it like this, you start making decisions for yourself. What actually makes YOU feel satisfied? If no one was watching you and you had nothing to prove, how would you behave? What makes you happy with out other people’s approval?

What about when it comes to relationships? A relationship ends, and we fantasize how great our partner was. We begin to tell ourselves that if we just improve this or that, that we might be worthy of their love. We focus on becoming better, but we do it for the wrong reasons. You do not have to prove yourself to this person. Take all the good that you see in this person, and start believing those things about yourself. You do not have to win anyone over.

Win yourself over.

Stop falling in love with ideas, fall in love with yourself.

Thanks for reading.

XO,

Coco

Trust the Timing of Your Life

Advice + Inspiration

Have you ever broken your phone, gotten rejected from a job, or been late to an important date because of traffic and thought why me god?

Let’s face it- no matter how good of people we are or how much we prepare for our futures, there will always be room for error and disappointment.

What about karma?!

Yes we still must remember that what we do onto others will be done to us in some form or another. Bad things will still happen.

Here’s the thing though- whether you see it now or not, it’s all adding to a bigger picture. There is a plan for you.

We try to force what happens in our lives. Quickly we realize that we cannot. Trust the timing of your life.

What lesson is the universe trying to teach you that is going to prepare you for the next chapter of your life?

So often people tell me stories of what they imagined their lives looking like versus what they ended up looking like. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I’ve been told the same thing- I never really planned for this to happen. My life just pulled me in this direction and somehow the dots just connected.

How amazing is that? If you are going through something right now it could be adding new dots for you. An ability to empathize with more people. A source of motivation to change the system. An idea for a new project.

What does trust the timing of your life mean?

Be patient. Breathe. Have faith. You are not alone. You are connected to a greater purpose. Believe it.

So if you wanted something badly, gave it all you had, yet it still didn’t work out, it just means it’s not for you. Something greater is ahead.

Trust the timing of your life.


Why You Need to Stop This Mindset

Advice + Inspiration, Uncategorized

If I lose 20 pounds then I’ll be happy

If I get a promotion then I’ll be successful

If I get this job then I’ll be good enough

If I get 10k followers then I will feel pretty

STOP THAT RIGHT NOW!!!

Stop placing your worth, happiness, and success in the achievement of something in the future. When we do this, we basically tell ourselves that we cannot be happy until we get these things.

Think back to when you were a child. You’re in a grocery store trying to convince your parents to buy you a toy. You tell yourself that there is no possible way you will be happy unless they agree to buy you the thing. You have already decided that you will throw a fit if you don’t get what you want. This time you’re lucky- your parents agree to buy you it! Now you feel so happy… for a moment…. but it doesn’t last.

How many times have you placed your happiness on getting something that you look back on now and have to laugh? Turns out the American Girl Doll wasn’t the secret to our lasting happiness after all. Just like getting that new designer purse isn’t either.

How happy you are now is likely to determine how happy you will be in the future. It is fine to look forward to something. In fact, it’s totally healthy, but this is different than deciding you won’t be happy until something happens for you.

We aren’t the best at predicting what will happen in the future. Think about it. Who did you want to become when you were younger? What did you think you’d be doing right now 5 years ago? I can speak for myself and say that these are two very different things.

So decide today that you will be happy. Not when you get that new car or those new shoes. This only lasts so long until you are lusting over the next new thing.

Decide to be happy because you have goals and values that guide what you do. Be happy because you are in this moment right now and have made it this far. Be happy to be authentically you. And be happy that you are on a mission to change your life and the lives of others too.