I know- the title is kind of a bold statement.
I believe in it fully.
Have you ever been back in a place where people only see you as the old you?
The people in this certain place expect old reactions from you and see you in a way that is no longer a present version of who you are. Often times you feel as though you have to resort to old behaviors to satisfy the relationship even though you know you’ve grown from this stage in your life.
No matter how differently you act or what topics you are now interested in, they choose to see you as the person you used to be.
You need to move.
I’m sure you’ve heard this before but you can’t move forward if you keep re-reading the same chapter of a book.
There is no way you can grow in a place that refuses to see you as a book that’s still being written instead of a chapter that is to be re-read.
If someone isn’t willing to see you for the growing version of yourself, they’re only stopping you from reaching that next step in your life.
What do I mean by “moving”?
I think you can move in a number of ways. It all depends on what kind of “move” you think is necessary in order for you to grow and be who you truly are. Here are a few examples-
Live somewhere new
Actually move to a new place! Pick a location on the map and go there. Start completely new. A new house, new job, a new climate.
Sounds kind of drastic, right?
I want to tell you a story. I had a friend who traveled and lived in Europe for a year to work. While there, we would FaceTime occasionally and she told me how distance from our hometown made her feel like a new person. She had new visions for her future, felt she had new purpose, and saw life through a whole new lens. I could see it too. She even explained to me how she felt as though the people in our hometown were stuck having the same conversations that she didn’t want to be a part of anymore. When her job ended and she came back home, she went back to old perspectives and behaviors. She knew better but because of the environment she was put back in, it was hard to change and continue growing there.
So please just move!
If not physically moving your location you can also
– move away from certain types of people
– move jobs
– move away from certain places that don’t benefit you anymore
It can be hard to do these things especially when it’s all you know, but you are not doing any of these people or places any favors by pretending to fit in there.
Move where you need to move.