How Jealousy Serves a Purpose

Do you ever look at someone online and think “why am I not as rich, happy, successful, or thin as them?”. 

Do you ever talk to a friend or an acquaintance about their accomplishments and leave thinking “why is their life so much better than mine?” 

Comparing ourselves to others is completely natural, but it can be a bad habit that can steal our happiness.

You will never be the person you are comparing yourself to. You don’t know what they have done to get to where they are and they don’t know what you have done to get to where you are. 

Jealousy is a dangerous cycle. It can fill us with hatred and resentment towards ourselves and others. 

What if you took the negativity and anger that comparing gives you and began seeing it as a positive thing? 

Begin seeing jealousy as a point of growth and motivation.

Begin to reflect on your jealousy of others and question what this jealousy can do for you going forward.

For example- One day, you catch up with an old friend and when you see her she looks really good- she lost a bunch of weight, started a garden, and just got a new job that she keeps raving about.

What about her accomplishments has made you jealous?

I’m jealous that she looks super good

Instead of being jealous of your friend’s fitness success ask yourself if this is an area of your life that is lacking? Am I jealous because this is something I want to be bettering myself in? Your jealousy is serving a purpose- it’s a calling for something you have been wanting to do. 

From there- you can genuinely congratulate your friend and ask how she did it. Instead of being jealous- be inspired!!! (also note that success is contagious so you should always be happy that your friends are succeeding- and be patient you are next!) 

To wrap this post up:

Let’s face it- it can be really hard to prevent ourselves from feeling jealous of others. So, instead of sitting in horrible jealous feelings – turn these emotions into feelings of  inspiration. There is a reason why you are jealous of someone’s success: realize what it is and adjust your life accordingly.

Looking at jealousy as an opportunity for growth will help you understand that- where you are now isn’t a permanent state of being. You are still learning and bettering.

Let jealousy motivate you and become exactly who you want to be.

On Following your Dreams

You have pages and pages of things you want to do, places you want to see, and goals you want to achieve. It’s all so exciting and awesome, but then at the end of the day, you realize you have done nothing to get there. Your words and thoughts don’t align with your actions and routine. Months pass and you realize all these things will only ever be dreams because you don’t have the time, money, resources, etc.

Does this sound like you?

Almost everyone I’ve met has been here-including myself. In conversation, you talk about your passions and all the ideas you have and at the end of it all you go home to do things that don’t align with your words what-so-ever and wonder why you are unsatisfied.

“words mean nothing when your actions contradict”

You can talk about how in-shape you want to get, how many friends you want to make, and how much money you want to in your bank account, but if you never actually do anything to get there how can anything actually happen?

I used to have a habit of saying all the things I wanted to do, but made every excuse under the sun at to why it wasn’t the right time.

What made me change this habit?

Having Role Models. I began to observe people who I wanted to become like. This is huge! Who’s success do I admire? What do they do differently than myself? How do they carry themselves? Why do I admire this person? How can I learn from this person?

– take this person for coffee

– do research on this person

– reach out to them online

What have I learned after talking to my role models? They aren’t smarter or luckier than me (like I had previously thought), they just spend their time differently. This made working towards my dreams less scary.

Remember that you are enough- you probably just don’t have enough information yet on how to get to where you want to be- that’s why learning from someone else is so important.

Whoever you want to learn from will be flattered that you are inspired by them, so don’t be nervous to reach out!

Surrounding myself with other dreamers. Similar to having role models- surround yourself with people who have similar goals and a growth mindset. These people will change your outlook on life and success, but make sure you are returning that energy back as well.

Friendship is a two-way street- be the friend you want to have.

1-Hour. It is said that it takes 10,000 hours to perfect something. If you’re not willing to dedicate AT LEAST an hour a day to get yourself closer to your goals, are you really invested in achieving them?

Alone time. I used to be so scared of being alone that I would make sure I never was. I would plan to spend time with my friends every single minute until I was ready for bed. Every activity from grocery shopping, homework, to working out- I had to have someone with me. It’s healthy to be social, but not to the point where you don’t know who you are when you’re alone.

Now, I make sure I give myself alone time to reconnect with myself, remember my goals, and plan what I will do to make sure I can get to where I want to be.

Picturing my ideal self. This past weekend, when I was talking to a close friend, she shared with me how someone she knew passed away recently. She said: “during her memorial, her friends said that she was the type of person to always follow through on her word. It made me think that I need to be more conscious of my effect on others and it made me question what kind of energy I want to project onto this world”.

What do you want to be known for? How will you put it into existence?

 

Are there any habits you have embedded in your daily routine that have helped you achieve your goals? I would love to hear them. Thanks!

 

3 Signs That You Found “It”

Have you ever done something for someone else without expecting something in return? How did you feel after? Doing for others makes us feel happy and fulfilled. Weird right?

Are there other things that you do that give you a similar feeling afterwards?

I believe that there are several signs that you found your true purpose or passion that can be unique to you, but here are three that stand out to me:

It gives you endless energy

Do you ever work on a project or spend time with someone and strangely you have even more energy afterwards? You feel excitement about life and positive thoughts take over your mind. This is definitely a sign.

Everything leading up to it makes sense now

Why did the other things not work out? You begin to understand because it wasn’t for you. All of the experiences led you to where you are meant to be.

Everything else in your life starts to feel right

You have a weird feeling of alignment. Things start to connect and you have some sense of peace and understanding.

 

Is there anything in your life that makes you feel like this?

Don’t ignore the signs!