Why You Need to Do More Story-Telling

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Okay funny story- are you ready?

I used to work at an elementary school- and boy if you don’t know what roasting is you will learn a thing or two while working there- okay that’s besides the point.

So, do you remember being in elementary school and always trying to act cooler or more mature than you were? Yes you do- don’t lie.

Anyways, in the classroom we had a book shelf filled with books that I never once saw a kid touch. Very sad, I know. One day, I decided to pull out a few of my childhood favorites and read them out loud. I just sat at a table by myself and began. No fair -warning- nothing.

At first, the kids were all snickering. “Why is ms. Coco just reading out loud randomly?” They started making jokes about the books, but then something funny happened.

Within five minutes of me reading, half of the classroom was sitting by me. They began to truly listen. No jokes- just engaged fourth and fifth graders. While the other half wasn’t gathered around, they were still listening as well and would occasionally run over to look at some pages as I told the stories.

Funny right? I think so at least. It’s because we all love a good story.

What teachers did you like the best? The ones that made connections through story-telling or the ones who just read off the bullet points and left you wondering “what’s the point”? I think it’s a pretty easy question to answer, right?

Story-telling draws people in! That’s why we love movies, hearing other people’s experiences, etc. It connects us to one another.

They also help us remember things better. I am much more likely to remember new information if it’s told in story form versus just having to memorize words and definitions.

Tell more stories! It makes people want to listen more and it makes it easier to connect with others.

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk LOL.

And as always, thanks for reading!

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Let’s Empower Other Women

This is something that has been so incredibly prominent in my daily life now more than ever.

So much so that I have joined a Women in Business Club, joined a couple of Girl Boss Blogging Groups, etc.

It’s easy, as women, to see other women as a threat or competition, but in reality we should be working together.

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As I am becoming a young professional, I’m beginning to realize that we need to encourage each other more and more. Joining new groups has opened my eyes to how much potential we have for change.

Today, in the Women In Business meeting I attended, the topic of conversation was:

“Let’s Be Real- About Our Fears”

In this conversation, we discussed our big picture goals and the fears that come with striving for them.

For me, I have always been concerned with the “work/life balance”. Being in this group, it was comforting to know I was not alone in this worry. Many other women voiced the stress that comes with thinking about having a family while striving to become a successful career woman. Other women talked about their choice not to have children and the negative comments that they have received from voicing this. Sadly, these are things many women worry about.

So, being in a group with ambitious women and being able to have open conversations with each other about our dreams and fears is huge. We all have fears and knowing that you have an amazing support group who mutually encourages each other makes working through them much easier.

I want to end this blog post with a Ted Talk that was introduced at the beginning of the meeting. Just some food for thought and advice from the chief operating officer of Facebook and founder of Leanin.org. Definitely check it out!

 

Tomorrow I will post about Podcasts that are based around empowering women- I have been obsessed lately!

Thanks for reading. Let’s inspire and encourage each other today.

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How Can We Feel More Connected?

Have you ever felt disconnected?

It’s a strange feeling, isn’t it?

Disconnect can take form in a number of ways. This disconnect can be from your authentic self or a disconnect from others.

Being curios to understand how feelings of disconnect occur, I did some research and have compiled a list of potential causes for feeling disconnected and a list of ways to minimize these feelings from my own experience and from what I have read.

I believe that whatever words stand out to you in these lists may be a sign or call to action. I know while doing research that I noticed that some things resonated with me more than others.

Potential Causes

FOMO caused by social media

Not being fully present in conversation

Doing things that don’t align with your goals

Worrying about yourself instead of helping others (yes, obviously you need to take care of yourself, but our purpose on earth is finding ways to serve others)

Not spending enough alone time

Spending too much alone time

Drug use

Chemical imbalances

Potential Solutions

Physical activity

Spending time in nature

Developing mindfulness practices

Paying attention to your emotions (don’t suppress)

Make future plans (events, girls night, etc.)

Talking to a stranger

Eating whole foods

Hugging someone

Writing

Volunteering

Laughing

Playing

Giving gratitude

Playing with a pet

Having a creative outlet

Putting your phone down and taking a break

 

These lists contain causes and solutions for both personal disconnection and disconnection from others.

Again, I think whichever activities resonated with you the most is what is most telling. 

We all crave to feel connected. It’s a human need!

I hope you find love & connection in your day today. Thanks!

 

Any things you do to feel connected? I would love to hear them.