What’s the Greatest Thing You Can Do for Others?

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What’s the greatest thing you can do for others?

Become genuinely happy.

Here’s the secret though: becoming genuinely happy takes work. Are you willing to do it?

What habits are preventing you from becoming genuinely happy?

Here are some common habits I am familiar with and have noticed affect others’ happiness as well:

1. Being a pushover

2. Making decisions that don’t align with your goals

3. Not being true to yourself

4. Doing things only for instant gratification

5. Being selfish

Why do these habits affect us negatively? They prevent us from having genuine connections with ourselves which in turn makes it hard for us to connect with others. 

Think of a time when you truly felt good about yourself. Not just in a superficial way, but in a way that went deeper. You were excited to wake up and felt like you were in great alignment. Your conversations were not only great internally, but this alignment allowed for you to have great interactions with others. Every action and moment felt like it served a greater purpose. You felt connected to source. 

So, if you aren’t new to my blog, you know that I love to ask questions. I think asking yourself questions often is so important in understanding ourselves and why we behave in certain ways.

Here are some questions I want you to consider in figuring out how you will become genuinely happy:

How will I spend my mornings?

For me, mornings are sacred. I need time to wake up. If I don’t get this time, it affects my day and mood. The days I’m happiest are when I wake up and meditate. Don’t check my phone. Take time to pick out my outfit and plan my day. 

What will I do everyday to work toward my goals?

No matter who you are, working toward a goal is crucial in finding meaning in your everyday life. My goal is to lead a healthy lifestyle. I walk every single day. Walks are a good way for me to reflect and get in fresh air while getting steps in. I enjoy them too! What thing can you implement that will work with your schedule? Pick something you will enjoy doing and stick with it. Make it essential in your daily routine.

 What is/ will be my creative outlet?

We all need one. Is it music? Writing? Painting? Whatever it is, make sure you have a bit of it at least once a week. Do something simply for the fun of it. 

What will I do to stop myself from going back to old habits that prevent my happiness?

Figure out your triggers and check-in with yourself often. Why are you doing what you’re doing? I used to go out when I was sad or disappointed- not because I wanted to celebrate or have fun. In an attempt to escape reality, this habit only made me sadder. Now before I go out, I ask myself: why am I going out? And if it’s because I’m sad, I will decide to stay in and pamper myself. This has quick reflecting time has changed my life. Realize your own destructive behaviors, why you do them, and what you can do to change them for a healthier way of coping. 

What do you think? What makes you genuinely happy?

Thanks for reading!

XO,

YOUNGCOCO

Interview with U of M Student: Josie Wilde

Josie is a dear friend of mine. We met last year while lost in Murphy Hall looking for our classes- which we later found out we had together. During the class, she constantly inspired me with her design skills and was always stopping to help me with my projects. She has such a fun and bubbly personality. I am so happy we have class together again this semester. 

So, these interview questions were somewhat improvised which resulted in a beautiful conversation that helped me learn a bit more about Josie and what experiences made her who she is today. 

Josie, before college what kind of work were you interested in doing?

In high school, I wanted to be a news anchor and a part of me feels like maybe I’ll go back to that. I’m in the strategic communications track, but I wouldn’t be opposed to going back to it. I love public speaking and ever since I as young, I wanted to be on WCCO.

I could see it. So, how do you stay involved on a big campus like the University of Minnesota?

I am a campus ministry bible study leader. This is my biggest community here at the U. I live with seven girls from this community. I also love my major and what I’m learning which is super important. It makes a huge difference actually liking going to classes!

 So when I first met you, one of the first things we talked about was travel, can you tell others about some of your travel experiences?

Yes! In the past year, I went to Israel. It was important to my faith and to understanding the political aspect of Israel. The culture there was a complete 180 to American culture. I feel like Europe was kind of similar to the U.S., but Israel felt like a whole different universe.

In the spring, I went to Boston to visit a friend- it was beautiful.  I fell in love with the East Coast. It was my first time flying alone and I’d never been there before. It felt so good doing things by myself! I felt like I could do anything.

Then this past summer, I went to Glacier and Banff in Canada. This trip was the first time that I had ever gone camping. It was so different but so awesome. I was nervous for this trip intially. Honestly, I didn’t really want to go but did anyways. I’m so glad I did because here, I learned much more about perseverance. I had to learn to change my mindset. The hikes were difficult. I would begin to think negative thoughts and would have to stop myself.  I realized while feeling bad for myself, I was overlooking all the beauty that surrounded me. Just breathe I would tell myself. One step at a time. Everything was fine. Getting to the top was so rewarding especially knowing how hard I had worked to get there. This experience taught me that mindset is huge in anything I do. 

It sounds like that trip really changed your perspective. On the topic of mindsets and perspective, is there anyone you look up to and strive to see the world in the way that they do?

Bob Goff. I just read his book called Everybody Always.  I also read his book called Love Does. His philosophy is adding love into everything you do and using love as an action. He talks about the importance of trying to love others who are different from ourselves. This has influenced me to think about how I can be positive and love others more- even people I don’t get along with.

His books have helped me realize that it’s not all about me. They help me understand that we’re all different and because of that, I now think more carefully about how I treat other people.

He has also helped me work through differences with my family. They really care, but sometimes we have to realize we are coming from different perspectives. It’s better when we work to try to understand them. When we disagree, I try to think “how can I react positively to this?”  

Life isn’t always going to be easy. I try to keep the mindset of “let’s get it done” and trying to be the best that I can be. 

I truly see this attitude coming through in how you show up everyday. So what’s next for you? 

I’m going on a mission to Paris! For this trip, I have to ask for support letters- which is like my biggest fear. My dad was not super excited about it, so I wasn’t expecting contributions from my family, but they donated over 500 dollars. I am incredibly grateful. I believe this is a testament to the lord and that he wants me there.

I love that. I truly believe that when something is meant to be the universe comes together to make it happen, can you explain this a bit more?

My whole life the lord has led me. It’s so funny because sometimes I will want something really badly. I’m like “lord please!! I want this oh I know this is good for me”- and then I look back and I’m like that would have been the stupidest thing ever. This has been the case for so many things even relationships that haven’t worked out- I look back and just say thank you.

Sometimes not giving us something is the greatest gift the lord can give. So now, I have changed how I pray. If I want something, I won’t just pray for it, but I ask god to give it to me if it is in his will. 

What a beautiful perspective. I feel it on so many levels. Outside of church and mission trips, what do you like to do for fun?

Social media. This sounds bad, but I love communications! I love editing pictures- even decorating my room. I love aesthetic and organization. Weddings too. I love them. My pinterest board has so many wedding pins it’s ridiculous. I love watching wedding youtube videos too. In another world, I would be a wedding planner.

I’m for it! Do you have any specific goals pertaining to your social media? 

Not mine specifically, but I would love to do social for a corporation. I would love to take one that has a horrible presence so I could make huge improvements to it. 

Any other big life goals or places you want to live in the future?

I love Minneapolis! I would love to stay here and work here. Obviously, I want to get married at some point. I love where I’m at right now, but I’m not opposed to going somewhere else.

It’s crazy that I will graduate in a year and have a job hopefully. I am really open and flexible to what happens. Again, I know the lord leads me. I know I will be where I am meant to be. 

Yes. Yes. Yes. I am so excited to see where the future takes you. I believe you will continue to do incredible things. With that, is there a quote you would like to end this interview with?

This quote is from Everybody Always:

“God doesn’t just give us Himself. Sometimes He gives us a few other people in our lives whose voices we can trust.”

Thank you Josie and everybody who read this. 

XO,

YOUNGCOCO