Everyone You Meet

If you’re reading this right now, there’s a reason. The same goes for everyone you’ve met.

You may have heard the over-used phrase that every person you meet is either a lesson or a blessing. Regardless of if this is true or not, there is no mistake in who crosses your path.

Tonight, I crossed paths with someone who re-sparked a light in me. Has this ever happened to you? It happens in the most unexpected moments, doesn’t it?

The woman who re-sparked this light deserves credit: Dr. Verna Price.

She is… Bold.

Every word she spoke was everything that I needed to hear.

Who would I be if I didn’t share with others?

Before tonight, I had no motivation. I stopped doing the things I loved. She helped me realize that.

So while I wish I could just copy and paste everything that she said, I can’t. I did, however, take notes. A lot of them.

Here are a few of them:

  • You are not depressed or stressed.. you need to get up and figure it out. Be bold.
  • The reason you’re not succeeding is because you are telling yourself that you won’t.
  • The sign of a great leader is someone who knows themselves well enough to follow themselves.
  • Pay attention to what’s coming out of your mouth and your heart
  • Who you are in private is the most important
  • And finally… our destiny is intertwined with everyone we meet

Everyone who was in the room during her speech was in there for a reason.

Pay close attention to the messages around you and the people who surround you. What purpose do they serve?

Thanks for reading.

XO,

YOUNGCOCO

What’s Really Holding You Back?

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality”

Why do we let fear control our experiences when 99.9% of the things we worry about never end up happening?!

Can you imagine how different your life would be if your thoughts weren’t constantly¬† self-defeating?

While fear can be beneficial to us in some cases, like keeping us away from dangerous situations, it can also be damaging by preventing us from growing and living a peaceful life. Think about all of the opportunities you’ve missed by letting fear take over.

I think that the most inspiring people I’ve met seem to be fearless. They aren’t afraid to speak up, take risks, and can talk to virtually anybody confidently. How did they get to be this way?

Being curious, I listened to a podcast with a series of interviews about becoming fearless. One of interviewees, in the podcast, described how he got over one of his biggest fears- swimming. By the end of 3 months, he had not only learned how to swim, but ended up swimming two miles in the ocean. He describes how he felt in this moment: invincible. Not only did he conquer his fears, he mastered them. He explains how this experience led him to the realization that he had the capability to achieve much more than he had thought and that he had been letting fear limit his whole life.

At the end of the podcast, another interviewee revealed one of his strategies to overcoming his daily fears. He calls it fear-setting. His strategy has three parts:

Define, Prevent, Repair. 

He said that writing out your fears is key to putting them to rest. So, he has a journal where he divides his pages into define, prevent, and repair columns.

In the first column, he defines his fear. For example: “I won’t do well on my presentation next week”.

In the second, he writes what he can do to prevent this from happening like “I will practice 10 times this week”.

In the third column, he writes how he can repair the situation if the bad things happens anyways: “I will realize that I’m not perfect and there is room for growth”.

 

If you wan’t to learn more about the insights from this practice, look up Tim Ferriss. I believe he also has a Ted Talk that you can watch on the topic!