What’s Really Holding You Back?

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality”

Why do we let fear control our experiences when 99.9% of the things we worry about never end up happening?!

Can you imagine how different your life would be if your thoughts weren’t constantly  self-defeating?

While fear can be beneficial to us in some cases, like keeping us away from dangerous situations, it can also be damaging by preventing us from growing and living a peaceful life. Think about all of the opportunities you’ve missed by letting fear take over.

I think that the most inspiring people I’ve met seem to be fearless. They aren’t afraid to speak up, take risks, and can talk to virtually anybody confidently. How did they get to be this way?

Being curious, I listened to a podcast with a series of interviews about becoming fearless. One of interviewees, in the podcast, described how he got over one of his biggest fears- swimming. By the end of 3 months, he had not only learned how to swim, but ended up swimming two miles in the ocean. He describes how he felt in this moment: invincible. Not only did he conquer his fears, he mastered them. He explains how this experience led him to the realization that he had the capability to achieve much more than he had thought and that he had been letting fear limit his whole life.

At the end of the podcast, another interviewee revealed one of his strategies to overcoming his daily fears. He calls it fear-setting. His strategy has three parts:

Define, Prevent, Repair. 

He said that writing out your fears is key to putting them to rest. So, he has a journal where he divides his pages into define, prevent, and repair columns.

In the first column, he defines his fear. For example: “I won’t do well on my presentation next week”.

In the second, he writes what he can do to prevent this from happening like “I will practice 10 times this week”.

In the third column, he writes how he can repair the situation if the bad things happens anyways: “I will realize that I’m not perfect and there is room for growth”.

 

If you wan’t to learn more about the insights from this practice, look up Tim Ferriss. I believe he also has a Ted Talk that you can watch on the topic!

 

How an Inspiration Board Changed my Life + What I Included in it

At the beginning of every semester, I write a list of goals I want to accomplish. I write them in a notebook, shut it, and forget about them. By the end of the semester, I look back on these goals to realize I didn’t accomplish any of them. So what is my new approach that has already worked better in the three weeks that I’ve used it compared to the years I spent writing them in a notebook? Inspiration Boards.

What I Did:

I grabbed an unused poster board from my room and decided it would work. From here, I added 6 different things to create my inspiration board. Here’s a list of what I included and how they will help you:

  1. My ideal weekly schedule: It will help you picture exactly what you need to do in a week to get closer to your goals.
  2. A motivational quote: to spark your drive. Screen Shot 2018-09-15 at 12.16.20 PM
  3. A list of every single goal I had whether I thought it was possible to accomplish or not. When you read them, they will be fresh on your mind and you will subconsciously attract things that help you get there.
  4. A monthly calendar: I use this as a chain calendar. How does it work? When you do what you’re supposed to do for the day example: you went to the gym, then you mark an “X” on the calendar date. This is proven to keep you motivated to follow through everyday because you will want to avoid losing your streak.photo
  5. Pictures: Visualize. Visualize. How can your dreams come true if you can’t visualize them? “every skyscraper was once a drawing or a vision, same for your dreams- they can’t come true unless you have a clear vision of what they look like” ba9a3f3222e8e4038dc55bcccbc49991
  6. A touch of Aesthetic. Make it cute so you actually want to look at it!

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Why has this worked?

I put the inspiration board somewhere where I know I will always see it: on my desk.

I look at it every morning and it reminds me that every single day counts in making my dreams come true. It ensures that my goals will not be forgotten. The quote and photos keep me motivated, the weekly calendar reminds me what I need to do to achieve these goals, and the monthly calendar holds me accountable.

 

I hope this  inspires you to make your own inspiration board. They are seriously life changing.

Also, let me know if you have any advice for other things that I can add to my inspiration board!