To Do:

Go above and beyond

Give the love you wish to receive

Create things you wished you had in a time when you felt stuck.

Give someone the confidence to live their dreams.

Life is better when we strive for greatness.

Wake up in the morning on a mission. How will I impact others today? And most importantly how will I impact my own life?

Learn something new.

Take time to just be.

Take time to enjoy your morning coffee.

Make time to be silly and laugh about stupid stuff.

You create your day and your life.

If you were to replay scenes from your life, what do you want them to look like? What will your life be full of?

Finding Deeper Meaning

Like many who come into college, I started my academic career by taking “generals”. These are classes like sociology 1001, biology 1000, and intro to psychology.

In these courses, we skim the various topics that pertain to the overall subjects- like in biology we briefly went over definitions of evolution, genetics, and cell functions. Each topic covered spanned about two weeks long. We took an exam, forgot about what we learned, and then moved onto the next subject.

While these classes gave us a chance to explore the wide range of studies available to us, they lacked an in-depth understanding of why the lessons were meaningful and didn’t give us the ability to have long conversations about what we had learned.

It’s not until 3000-level subjects when we are able to completely unpack and learn deeply a certain aspect of an overarching subject. We take more time focusing on each lesson and usually have one big project that we work on the entire semester.

What does this have to do with deeper meaning?

Have you ever gone to a social gathering and realized you are engaging in surface level conversations with people?

These conversations sound like tape recordings “how are you?” “how’s work?” “what’s new?”

After a while, these conversations drain our energy. Why is that?

We crave connection and meaning.

Social gatherings honestly suck until you get into those unique conversations that you don’t engage with in your everyday life. They excite us and make us feel like we are really getting to know the person we are talking with.

These conversations usually occur once we get more comfortable and situated in an environment.

If you are like me, you want to give everyone attention at an event. You want to say hi to everyone, but sometimes engaging with just a few people allows for more memorable conversations plus once you have a really good conversation it makes it easier to engage in more.

Not only do I enjoy depth in social settings, but I find when I work on just one or two projects during the day, I feel much more satisfied. Focusing on finishing a book or an art project instead of doing small bits of everything is much more rewarding. Trying to pack too much in our day makes for a chaotic life.

So what I’m really trying to say is that engaging with more in-depth content is so much more interesting and fulfilling. When my day has at least one deep interaction or lesson, I feel peaceful and whole. When my days are full of lots of superficial content, I feel like something is missing. In some ways, this deeper meaning is achieved by simplicity. Less can be more.

What do you think?

I Asked 20 People What Their Life Philosophy Was. Here’s What They Said:

On a Sunday morning, I decided to ask everyone a pretty scary question, that if someone had asked me before this, I’m not sure I would’ve known what to say:

“What is your philosophy on life?”

I asked partly out of curiosity but mainly because I have so many amazing people in my life that I look up to and thought this was a perfect opportunity to learn from them.   

So, here it is. 20 Life Philosophies!

1

Work everyday. Then, there is no time to feel worried or have sorrow. Work and your job becomes your biggest supporter. I work everyday and I think that makes me happy. 

2

Have more than one source of happiness. Have many hobbies. Music, reading, entertainment- things you can lean on. Looking at it in an analytical way: not only does this thing make me happy, but does it contribute to my life? For example: playing guitar versus watching Netflix. Playing the guitar feels more rewarding because many things that feel rewarding require more work, but they are more worth it. 

Have low expectations. Don’t let life disappoint you. So if your car breaks down or your friend shows up late, it doesn’t matter.

Try to live more in the moment. Easier said than done but really just focusing on the now.

Connecting with others is a really good source of happiness. I call my friends on commutes. Listening to stories makes me feel connected.

Simplicity. The best sushi is just fish on rice. It’s about the quality.

I believe that happiness is not success related. In America, success is so rooted in happiness. Success is a biproduct of mindset.

Internal happiness through reflection. Journaling, meditation, walking.

Understanding the nature of human beings and how the world works is important too. Not everything is good. You can still do things to want to change the world for the better, but it is nothing you should distress over. You can understand why the world is the way it is, and try not to add to it (like pollution), but it’s human nature. You’re always going to meet mean people, but realize that’s how they were raised and it’s not inherently their fault. Doesn’t mean you should spend time with them but don’t judge them. 

3

I feel like my philosophy is kindness. So many people are so harsh with each other. Be good to the people around you. You never know what people are going through. We should all look out for each other. There’s so much hardship in the world like natural disasters and you never know who’s connected to what. Wealthier people have so many things they could do to better the world, but it usually ends up being the people who go through stuff who are the ones that give the most. For example, someone I was donating stuff to asked me if there were other people I could give to and handed me back some of the boxes I gave to them. 

4

Approach every situation and person with a clean slate. You don’t know what to expect. Everyone’s experience in life is different.

Find out who you are. It’s a long journey. It took me a few years to discover who I am, but I base my actions off of being a strong woman. 

5

Good Food=Good Life.

6

This one is something I have followed my whole adult life:
Always choose to work where there are people who will inspire you and that you know will make you a better person for knowing them. 
I’ve followed this rule since the day I left college and it has led to a career I have just loved and am incredibly grateful for. 

Another one I value is: Don’t be afraid to be the novice and to ask for help. It’s liberating to learn from others rather than compete with them to be right. 
And finally: When meeting new people, always ask them questions and show interest in them. People are typically flattered and will have a very good impression of you subconsciously as you made them feel so good. A bit sneaky but a good rule of thumb that gives you a simple and harmless advantage!

7

Do everything in life with joy and goodness from your heart. I think the most important thing to me is to do good and be happy while I live. I want to live with a lust for life, sprinkling positivity glitter everywhere I go and I want to be pure in my intentions- showing passion, compassion, and all of the kindness I can muster.

8

So, I know this sounds cliche, but my philosophy is “Live Your Best Life.” Essentially what this means to me is that you’re going to go through life doing what you think is best for you in the moment. What makes you happy at that point in time. Will it be best for you 50 years from now? Who knows. But, you’re always one decision away from a completely different life. So, live your best life. 

9

I would say everything should be guided by mutual respect, so acting in ways that respect yourself and make you feel empowered but also making sure that your actions are respectful of those around you and that you honor other people’s differences and life experiences. I think making big life decisions or even just every day interactions with people benefit from making sure it’s mutually respectful. 

10

For me, goals are important and achieving them are also very important to me. It brings me happiness in a way that’s different from going out or all of that. I feel like my hard work got me there. 

11

Never stop evolving even though you know you’re blessed. There is always room to be a better person and impact people’s lives in a positive way, no matter where you’re at in life!

12

Taking time to relax and recharge opens us up to more joy and meaning in life. 

13

I would say my philosophy on life would be to never give up. Never give up no matter how hard life and its situations might get. I say that because there is no blueprint to life and sometimes you may not know how to navigate and how to deal with situations but it all works itself out in the end as long as you keep trying

14

Life is an opportunity to create a story. Some people defy the laws of life and create great stories. I want to become one of the greatest story-tellers the world has ever seen. My dad always told me “you can only live to be 100 years, but your impact can live forever.”

15

I always try to go into situations with an open-mind and realizing that you are not always right. I know that everyone on this earth has a different mindset and approach towards how they want to live their lives. We each have different identities and cultures and we need to respect that about each other and not shut down other’s ideas right away. We need to make sure we hear them out and think radically about what they are saying.

I love the quote that goes, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” —Stephen R. Covey. But I truly think if we approach situations like this with an intent to understand and work together to fix problems, the world would be a lot better off in the future. 

16

Don’t stress too much about things. Live in the moment. 

17

Don’t be afraid to be yourself because that’s the only way you can be truly happy. Don’t care about what other people think. Treat everyone as kindly as you can because you never know when you will need them. You may have to depend on them some day. Treat everyone equally. 

18

Work hard but never forget to have fun. Create fun memories! As I get older, I realize more and more how important it is to have fun. 

Let things go that don’t matter!  Don’t let things get to you, life goes so fast. Remember to have fun and make memories. Stay in touch with friends, go out, do things you don’t normally do. Remember, you are only as old as you feel!  

19

I’d say mine is to love unconditionally. It doesn’t mean that you let people walk all over you, like boundaries need to be in place for healthy relationships, but loving people as they are and where they are is extremely healing not just for them but for myself too. I want to pour into people so that they’re not alone! 

20

Don’t invest 5 minutes if you’re not willing to invest 5 years. And work hard in silence, and let your success be the noise.


HUGE Thank you to everyone who shared their philosophy and to everyone who is reading. I hope these resonated with you as much as they did with me. I also want to take this chance to say how lucky I am to be surrounded with people who have such positive and thoughtful philosophies. Happy Sunday!

XO,

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Don’t Give Up

 

I know it’s hard

but don’t give up.

Some days taste like success-

others feel like pure failure

don’t give up.

you’ve climbed halfway up the mountain

but you’ve slipped down a couple of rocks

don’t give up.

Don’t throw away the table because it is dirty,

clean it.

Take care of your dreams,

they’re fragile-

don’t give up.

Look down,

you’ve come so far,

would you give away a year of growth

because of a few days of failure.

I hope not.

Get up.

Be proud of who you are

and what you will accomplish tomorrow.

You were made to do great things.

 

 

 

Let’s Empower Other Women

This is something that has been so incredibly prominent in my daily life now more than ever.

So much so that I have joined a Women in Business Club, joined a couple of Girl Boss Blogging Groups, etc.

It’s easy, as women, to see other women as a threat or competition, but in reality we should be working together.

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As I am becoming a young professional, I’m beginning to realize that we need to encourage each other more and more. Joining new groups has opened my eyes to how much potential we have for change.

Today, in the Women In Business meeting I attended, the topic of conversation was:

“Let’s Be Real- About Our Fears”

In this conversation, we discussed our big picture goals and the fears that come with striving for them.

For me, I have always been concerned with the “work/life balance”. Being in this group, it was comforting to know I was not alone in this worry. Many other women voiced the stress that comes with thinking about having a family while striving to become a successful career woman. Other women talked about their choice not to have children and the negative comments that they have received from voicing this. Sadly, these are things many women worry about.

So, being in a group with ambitious women and being able to have open conversations with each other about our dreams and fears is huge. We all have fears and knowing that you have an amazing support group who mutually encourages each other makes working through them much easier.

I want to end this blog post with a Ted Talk that was introduced at the beginning of the meeting. Just some food for thought and advice from the chief operating officer of Facebook and founder of Leanin.org. Definitely check it out!

 

Tomorrow I will post about Podcasts that are based around empowering women- I have been obsessed lately!

Thanks for reading. Let’s inspire and encourage each other today.

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Stop Making Excuses Today – Here’s How

I want to travel but..

I want to go back to school but..

I want to become a ____ but..

Delete the “but” from these phrases and change them with “and here’s how”

To stop making excuses you must:

One: Make a decision. How many conflicting goals do you have? You can write a million goals, but at the end of the day it’s only realistic to work on a few a day. Decide on the top 3-5 that will make you the happiest and most fulfilled. Then, make a plan as to how you will work up to them into your daily routine.

Two: Prioritize. You say you want to travel, but you don’t have the money. What about the new purse you bought last week? Your actions everyday reflect your priorities. What’s more important to you traveling or spending money on purses? Now figure out what habits and routines you need to change.

Three: Really want it. You can say you want to save money, but do you actually or do you get more satisfaction by spending your entire paycheck whenever it comes? What do you really want instant gratification or discipline and sustained happiness?

Four: DO SOMETHING! Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity. Start now. You will never have the perfect conditions to begin something so just go do it. You have to do more than just plan to get you there.

No Rainbows without Rain

Ever have one of those days when nothing seems to be going your way?

You wake up and your vibe is just ugh. You’re late to class/work, it’s a bad hair day, and you’re juggling the one million things on your mind. It almost feels like the world is setting out to frustrate you and is planning to give you any possible obstacle. And to top it off the person in front of you is driving 2 miles an hour.. FOR NO REASON! Then you come into work and meh- you would rather just be in bed. You begin to question how you’re going to get through it today.

You have two paths: Push through and ride out the day or throw it all up in the air and give up.

For me, today began as “one of those days”. I couldn’t seem to focus or be present in the moment. I sat at my desk and began to feel sorry for myself because it was 3pm and I still had a long to-do list. Commuting from one place to the another, I contemplated skipping all of my other obligations. I deserved it right? I had a rough day and did I forget to mention it started pouring rain outside? “Yup- it’s a sign, I’m going home” I thought to myself.

So, I got into my car and sat there watching the rain hit my dashboard- feeling all the emotions and then…. I took a deep breath and just drove. I went to the meeting, I finished the assignment, I checked off my to-do list. I did it. A dark cloud lifted.

Walking back to my car as the rain slowed, I felt renewed.

I looked up- a rainbow 

& then I remembered:

no rainbows without rain.