This Mindset Will Change Your Life

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What situations do you feel most comfortable in?

The ones that are familiar and rarely challenge you, right? Where you are content with being as is.

What situations scare you?

Most times, it’s in those unfamiliar situations. Places where people know more than you, there are conversations going on that you have never heard before, and the places where you start questioning your own ideas and habits.

In these moments, it’s easy to resort to thoughts like “wow these people are just smarter and better than me” and wish you were back in your safe spaces. Trust me, I have been there.

But, you know what? Those thoughts come from a place of fear. A fear of trying- yet not being good enough..

Sucks, right? I know.

What I can tell you with 100% certainty is this:

Who you are today is not a permanent state of being.

The situations where you are the most uncomfortable are truly helping you grow (growing pains). Yes it’s scary, but how can you get to where you want to be if you do the same things every day?

Remember this- What you know this year is far more than what you knew last year. Your knowledge and experience is up to you. The more new experiences that you immerse yourself in, the quicker you will grow and learn.

No one was just born with knowledge and experience. Those things are built over time and it’s up to you to decide at which speed.

So in order to grow, you must realize that you can.

Simple as that.

What you may not know today, you can learn tomorrow. And just because you don’t know something right now, doesn’t mean you won’t ever know it.

You are constantly growing and becoming a different version of yourself.

How are you going to look at your life from day to day? Find new growth opportunities daily.

I promise you’ll be uncomfortable, but it will be so worth it. I promise.

 

Thanks for reading & remember invest time into yourself.

You are worth it.

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Finding Your True Happiness

 

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I was talking to my aunt over the summer (feels like so long ago!) and one thing she said to me that has stuck was this:

“we don’t listen to ourselves enough”

I had never thought about this before. What do you mean by we don’t listen to ourselves enough? We are always with ourselves.

Only in the last month has this quote begun to make sense to me.

How often do you try to shut out certain feelings? Like you almost choose to believe these natural instincts don’t mean anything.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done this. I’ve stayed in situations too long because I chose to avoid that inner voice.

What if your gut feelings were actually trying to tell you something?

I choose to believe they are.

Listen to yourself!

What do you need in this moment? What was the first thing that came to your head? It must mean something.

For me, this has been spending time alone, taking the time to learn something new, and doing things that I am afraid of.

The more you listen to yourself, the more you will do things that align with your purpose. This alignment has brought me an abundance of happiness.

Don’t get me wrong- some days are harder than others, but on these days I realize that I just need to listen more.

 

Thank you for reading.

I wish you nothing but happiness and remember to just listen to yourself.

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What Do You Choose To Believe?

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How do you connect and see the experiences in your life?

What is your role in your life story?

How did you get to where you are today?

Your answers to these questions are what you have chosen to believe.

How crazy is it that you can go through the same experience as someone else, yet neither of you will ever describe it in the same way?

Your life is your perception of it.

What is your story and how are you going to tell it?

How you view your past is telling of how your future will be. Do you feel that your past life experiences have been unfair? You will likely continue to feel this way about future experiences as well. You need to change your beliefs to change what you experience.

Did you know that there are millions of contradicting beliefs out there?

Which ones will you choose to believe?

The ideas that empower you or the ones that fit your pitty story?

Do you want to live guided by your hopes or fears?

 

Choose your beliefs wisely and have a happy day 🙂

Thanks for reading!

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Just Show Up

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Ahhh. This is the most difficult part though right? To just show up.

Have you ever agreed to do something and right up to the point where you know you have to go you just internally debate whether you should or not?

Just show up.

Don’t think about the details right now.

Just show up.

Today, this woman who came in to speak at the club I’m in said something that really resonated with me. She said this:

“Every day you create your brand. What you say you will do should align with what you actually do. Every day counts.”

Just show up.

ummm… Show up for?

Show up for your friends

“True friends are those who are there for your big moments and your bad moments”. Show up for the people you care about. It means more to them than you can ever imagine. Just your presence alone. Be there for the moments you wish they would be there for if you were in their shoes.

Show up for the promises you made

Do you ever make promises months in advance and when it nears the date you just feel like backing out? Don’t. Follow through. Maybe in the future you won’t agree to the same thing again, but be the person who is true to their word. It goes a long way.

And last but not least, show up for yourself

What do you want? What are your goals? Show up for them. Go to the gym if you want to exercise more. Commit to yourself. Take an hour to practice your art every day. Who do you want to be? Show up for it and make yourself proud. Your soul will thank you.

XO,

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Why Mentorship is Crucial to Success

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I never had a mentor. I was too scared to reach out. Why would someone want to take time out of their busy schedule to give me advice?

I never considered becoming a mentor. Who would want my advice? I don’t even have my life together.

Well, here’s a universal truth: We all have something to teach and something to learn.

I would be flattered if someone looked to me as a mentor, so why wouldn’t someone else feel the same way?

We are all looking to learn more about something- and if you don’t feel this way you must know everything- teach.

We all have experiences of our own that others can learn from. We all have overcome challenges and that comes with stories to tell. Who doesn’t enjoy a good story? The stories I enjoy hearing the most are stories of overcoming major life challenges and what that looked like for someone.

None of our lives look the same, but we are here to connect with each other. One of the greatest gifts we can give each other is sharing and listening to other’s life experiences.

Being able to share how you got through an obstacle makes the struggle feel worth it. You went through whatever it was so that you could help others who are now going through that similar experience.

Are you scared the next chapter in your life? Get a mentor. They can make the leap less scary.

So who do you look up to? Reach out to them.

Who do you know that is in a place where you once were? Help them.

Thank you for reading. Have the happiest of mondays 🙂

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Why Being Indecisive is Hurting You More than You Think

 

So what do you want to do today? Well, no plans really.

Do you want a relationship? I don’t know.

What are your goals? I’m not really sure.

This is something I am a pro at being: indecisive. I can’t decide what movie to watch, where we should eat, what I want out of relationships.

Here is something that I have realized- if you don’t decide for yourself what it is that you want you leave your future in the hands of someone else. Now, with movies or something I really am indifferent to, I couldn’t care less, but when it comes to how I spend my days and my relationships it’s a whole different story.

I used to have the “go with the flow” mentality. It is a really good one to have in many cases. However, this mentality does not work if there is something that you truly want deep down.

I never sat down and pictured what it was that I truly wanted. So, I would let others decide for me. In the end, I would only get hurt because you can lie to others about what you want but you can’t lie to yourself.

So, one day I did it. I took the time to think about what I wanted my lifestyle to look like (the people I surround myself with, how I spent my mornings, etc.) and what kind of relationship I was looking for. These were things I had wanted for years, but never truly realized.

It has made a huge impact. Why?

I can communicate what exactly it is that I am looking for. So in relationships, if that person doesn’t want the same thing, then it just saved me months of heart ache.

I can decide exactly what I want my day to look like because I have made the decision to have certain things in my daily routines. I have decided on my priorities.

Remember: Some things in your life just aren’t up for negotiation and you need to decide what those things are.

It doesn’t make you stubborn or uptight. It means you know what you need in order to grow properly and ensure that you are putting yourself in healthy circumstances.

 

Thanks for reading. Don’t settle- make a decision.

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5 Habits That Have Changed My Life

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When I used to think of “becoming the best version of myself” I imagined that drastic lifestyle changes had to be made. I wanted to become super healthy? cut out all sugar, only eat veggies, and work out 1 hour a day. I wanted to become smarter? read a book a week and study all day.

Looking back, I have to LAUGH. How unrealistic. These drastic lifestyle changes were first of all very unenjoyable and secondly, unsustainable.

I would have weeks where I would abide by super strict rules to achieve my goals, something would set me off, and then all rules would go out the window. I would do exactly the opposite of what I had been forcing myself to do the week before. Trust me when I say this was not pretty. Then I would feel guilty, and start the whole process over again.

What a way to live..a giant rollercoaster.

So, what does this story have to do with the habits that have changed my life? Well these small habits have made me realize that in order to grow into a better version of myself, I don’t have to rip off an arm. I can enjoy the process of becoming healthier and smarter without torturing myself. Who would have thought?

So here are the small habits:

Meditating once a day- I am no expert on meditation, and maybe what I do isn’t technically considered “meditating” but hear me out. I take times in the day to do absolutely nothing. I find the best time to do this is in the morning before starting my day. I sit and think about the day to come. What will my day look like? What am I excited about? I ask these questions and just breathe until I’m ready to carry out the day. Its amazing what a difference it has made for me.

Waaalkinnnngggg- I try to go on a daily walk (and I don’t beat myself up when it doesn’t happen). It feels good to be out in fresh air. I either walk in silence or while listening to a podcast. This feels like another form of meditation for me while getting in some exercise. I write notes on my phone because this is also a great time to reflect and debrief.

Asking more questions- How do people learn? We ask questions! There is so much to learn from others that we miss out on because we simply do not ask enough questions.

Writing– I love to attend events and what I have been doing lately is bringing a journal with me. It helps me remember what was said, what I thought, and what was felt. Looking back on notes can help with sparking creativity and inspiration in the future as well.

Podcasts- I know I bring them up a lot but I have to include them. As humans, our minds need to be constantly fed information. That’s just how we are wired. Being able to learn something new while commuting or while cleaning your house is so cool to me. Podcasts also help me out of ruts. There are probably thousands of inspirational podcasts out there and they have helped me, on multiple occasions, out of a slump.

What small habits have you included in your daily practices that have changed your life? I’m curious to know and thanks for reading!

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