The Greatest Self-Reflection Mistake you’re Making

Trying to live your “best life”?

Many experts say that one of the keys to living up to your potential is to be self-aware. With out true self-awareness, it is difficult to grow as an individual. What does that mean? Let’s say you’re in a math class and no matter how hard you try you keep failing every assignment. It’s just not clicking. So, you decide to take a step back and reflect. You start to list the reasons why you’re doing so poorly: “I don’t try that hard, I suck at math, I’ve never been good at it, I’m just more of a science person.” After this pitty-party, you think to yourself “I just self-reflected.. Why isn’t this self-reflecting thing working? Why am I not getting better?”

Do you see a pattern in these self-reflections? They all ask the questions “why” A-Ha! What if instead of asking “why” you rephrased your questions to start out with “what“. So, instead of “Why am I bad?” you can ask “What am I not understanding?” or “What can I do differently on the next assignment?”

“What” questions give you a chance to answer more constructively. Instead of dwelling on your wrongs, they can force you to think logically versus emotionally. They can give you a growth perspective because they focus on what you can do in the future versus what you have done wrong in the past/ what you think is wrong with your character.

Here are some more rephrased self-reflection examples:

Instead of “why am I broke?” you can ask “what habits do I need to change to be more financially sound?”

Instead of “why are things not working with my significant other?” you can ask “what is not working well for us?”

These questions will help you achieve more self-awareness by removing emotional attachments.

“Self awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.”


FYI-This way of self reflecting did not come from me and I do not take credit for the idea. It is my own interpretation of a a piece of work with my own examples. The ideas in this post were taken from and inspired by a Ted Talk called:

“Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix- Tasha Eurich”

Check it out. Click the Link Here.

Interview with a College Senior: Part I

When I was in high school, my perception of college was limited to what my teachers and family told me my experience would be like. And my knowledge of career options? slim.

I wish, as a freshman, that I had had the courage to ask upper-classmen for college advice. That’s not to say that I regret anything, but hearing their advice could’ve prevented me from making some common mistakes.

Even though I can’t go back, I decided I would conduct a series of interviews asking college seniors questions about their experiences and if they have any advice to people who are new to college.

If you are in high school or are a freshman in college, I hope you can find some value in these interviews.

So with out further ado….

Interview #1: Olivia

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 Journalism and Strategic Communications

How many colleges did you apply to?


Why do you think you fit into your major? 

“I like to write and even though it’s not exactly what I want to do, I like learning about the effects of media and the subject is broad so I can apply it anywhere. Every company needs someone who can write.”

What careers did you consider in high school?

“I wanted to be an eye-doctor. When I thought of communications before, I thought it was mostly customer service people or like people who work at call-centers.”

What would you have done differently in high school, if anything?

“I would worry less. I would still study but things are a lot better in college.”

Do you have plans for after graduation?

“Well, hopefully work and do that for a while, ya know?”

What advice would you give freshman year you?

“Be more involved on campus and explore all majors. Lots of things. Be more open-minded because people are going through similar things and people don’t really open up about how hard it can be. Don’t date anyone older than you cause you’re going to want to meet people your age that you can go through college with.”


Thank you Olivia for being my first subject. 🙂

More interviews to come soon!

3 Things You Need to Ask Yourself Before Starting A Fitness Journey

I posted this quote on my Finding Motivation a Tuesday post, but it is too relevant not to say (or write) again:

“Change the approach but never the goal”

How many new year’s resolutions have you written that are almost identical to the ones you wrote the year before?

How many times have you said “I’ll start when ___” or my personal favorite “diet starts tomorrow”?

I have done and said every single one of these.

This post is not to say that I am the expert on fitness, but it is to point out the three questions that need to be answered before you decide how you will approach your fitness goals. Once you take these three questions into consideration – it will make sustaining your new healthy habits that much easier.

Let’s get started:

  1. The first question: “Do I know myself?”

It’s a deep one. I know. Why do I say this? Let me give an example. I like to go to a lot of social events. So, what makes a social gathering an event? Food. And it’s usually not the healthiest.  Knowing this, I used to tell myself that I would eat before I got to an event so that when I got there I wouldn’t eat. That never happened. What ended up happening was I would eat before an event and would still eat when I got there. Every time. It made me realize- for me, eating is a very social activity. If I don’t eat at an event, I feel like I’m insulting the host and am not fully partaking in the experience of the event. Realizing this about myself now, I wait until I arrive at an event to eat. As small of a change as this sounds, it has made a huge difference.

Another example- I have tried several different “diets”- paleo, vegan, gluten-free, eliminating processed foods.. the list goes on. These lifestyles may work perfectly for others! I am not discouraging these ways of eating. I wish I was able to sustain them. However, knowing myself, I know that I will I follow these diets rigidly for a few weeks or months, only to binge on everything I was restricting myself from shortly afterwards.

What I am trying to say is what works for others may not work for you. Know yourself. What can you realistically commit to? Do research and decide whether you’ll feel fulfilled or not with certain eating or exercise habits in the long run. There are healthy habits that are tailored to your lifestyle. Find meaning and purpose in your daily routines, and do it in a way where you feel healthy and most importantly HAPPY!

     2. The second question: “What are my priorities?”

Make a list. Rank them.

Example: 1- School, 2- Working out, 3- Hanging out with friends, etc.

Ranking your priorities helps you organize your day. So, if this was my priorities list, I would make sure I got all of my school work done and then the next on my list would be working out. Only if I got all of these done would I hang out with friends. Visualizing what your priorities are everyday will make a difference in keeping track of your daily habits. If it helps, put your priorities list somewhere that you will see them often. This way you will be constantly reminded of what they are.

3. The third question: “Am I actually committed to this?”

Or is this another “diet starts tomorrow” kind of fitness plan?

Find real meaning that will keep you committed to your plan. If your motivation to get in-shape is based on a temporary feeling, then your drive will also be temporary. What is the real reason you want to get in shape?

Write your purpose. Print pictures. Make plans.

You can do this!


How I was Tricked into Eating Vegan

I become vegan (not by choice) whenever I go to California.

Don’t believe me?

August 28th-my first day in California: I flew into LAX and was craving a burger!! My friend and I decided to walk around until we found it.. FAT BURGER. With my mouth watering, we darted into Fat Burger. As I was looking through the menu, I noticed “The Impossible Burger”. I thought to myself: challenge accepted.

“I’ll get the Impossible Burger!” I shouted

to which my vegan friend replied, “I’m proud. Look at you ordering vegan!”

So the Impossible Burger came- and it was actually delicious! Maybe it was because I was borderline starving, but I can’t deny that it hit the spot.

A picture of the burger:


The impossible burger tastes *almost* like a real burger. Honestly, if my friend hadn’t told me it was a vegan patty, I would’ve thought it was a bit of an odd burger, but I still would’ve eaten it. The texture is super soft and a little crumbly. The taste is very similar to beef, but different. I can’t describe it. You have to try it yourself.

For a vegan burger I would rate 10/10– I would definitely order again.

Don’t know anything about Impossible Burgers? Well, apparently they don’t only sell them at Fat Burger. It’s actually a brand of vegan meat. Check them out and find out restaurants near you that carry them


And if you actually decide to try, let me know your experience with it!


Finding Motivation on a Tuesday


I don’t know why, but I feel like Tuesdays are always the hardest. Mondays are tough, but there’s something about a Tuesday. It’s usually the day that it hits me that, yes, it is the week and there’s all this work to be done!

If you’re on the same boat and are looking for a little pick me up-

Here’s a list of my favorite quotes and habits that boost my mood and keep me inspired on a Tuesday:

  1. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start getting excited about what could go right
  2. You do not just wake up and become a butterfly- growth is a process
  3. I really think the secret to being loved is to love, and the secret to being interesting is to be interested and the secret to having a friend is to be a friend
  4. you can.
  5. The best way to get something done is to simply begin
  6. You can only fail when you stop trying
  7. Be the person you want to have in your life
  8. Prove them wrong!
  9. Know this: you can start over each morning
  10. It’s a slow process, but quitting won’t speed it up
  11. If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal
  12. Be your own inspiration
  13. Stop over-thinking and just do
  14. Give yourself more credit because you are doing great

I really believe that reading one quote in the morning that gives you energy or a push to get your day going is a good habit to form. I have several quotes saved in my camera roll (found on pinterest) that I look at in the morning, and if those don’t seem to motivate me on that given day I look for new ones.

Aside from reading inspiring quotes daily, I have developed a couple of new habits that have changed my quality of life significantly. You should definitely give them a try. Here’s how they have impacted me.

The first: Have more time in the morning for you.

There is no better feeling than waking up at the first alarm. This is definitely a hard task- I know- I used to be best friends with the snooze button. Now? instead of going back to bed, I sit on a chair and just breathe and think about the kind of morning and day I want to have. I don’t force myself to be productive right away, but instead allow myself to organize my thoughts. Once I feel like I’m ready to get some activity in I do some stretching and start the rest of my morning routine. It sounds so simple.. but it makes a huge difference. Those 5-10 minutes where I am totally undistracted and focused on myself change my entire outlook on the day. My attitude has changed and I am more at peace.

The second: Use Your Free-time Differently.

You might think “I don’t have free time”. The free time I’m talking about is the times in-between for example: the times during your commute, meal times, and if you’re a nerd like me the time you sit there waiting for class to start. So how do I use it? Learning. I used to feel insecure that I didn’t know anything outside of what I learned from class. I decided I would change that. How? I recently started listening to podcasts during commutes, reading before class starts, and now scroll through the news during meal times. I’m a very curious person and I am always eager to learn and if you’re someone like me or even if you’re not I think listening to podcasts and keeping your mind stimulated makes for a better day. For one, as humans we crave to be fed knowledge and so it makes you feel some kind of fulfillment and secondly, it can make for good conversation with your peers or coworkers.


2 Famous People You Should Know More About

I once heard this saying that “you can learn something new from everyone you meet”. It might not always be clear what… but so far this mindset has served me well in making new connections and finding deeper meaning in my interactions with others. While the people I will mention in this blog I may never meet, I think they hold great insights and wisdom that anyone anywhere can learn from.

The first…


Oprah Winfrey! I regret saying this, but, until a few days ago, I thought Oprah was overrated. I know, shameful. I never took the time to learn about her and just assumed there was too much hype around her wrong. If you don’t know much about Oprah, please, take these appropriate steps to get to know more.

  • Download the podcast-app and listen to her “SuperSoul Conversations” podcast in which she interviews several world-renowned spiritual individuals. I swear this podcast has changed my life (Learn more). At the beginning of every episode Oprah starts out by saying:

                         “I believe that the greatest gift you can give yourself is time”

and if that’s not the truth!

The second…


Marcus Aurelius. A man and philosopher wise beyond his time.

Here are a few of his famous quotes:

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”


Obviously, you can do more to learn about Oprah & Aurelius, but I hope these links made your research easier. Thanks!


5 Songs to Listen to this Week

I’ve had the same five songs on repeat for days.

Here they are, categorized by what vibe or mood they give off.


Mood: Chill/Relaxed

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Song: slow down my thoughts – Zachary Knowles


Mood: Energized

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Song: Happier – Marshmello


Mood: Heart-Broken

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Song: Your Shirt – Chelsea Cutler


Mood: Boss Work-Out

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Song: Beast – Migos


Mood: I’m the sh**

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Song: Chun Swae – Nicki Manaj + Swae Lee


Disclaimer: I took these album covers off of google. They do not belong to me.

Let me know what you think or if these are already on your playlist!