It was presentation day, and our group was up next.
Nerves were setting in, and I turned to a classmate, “Well, here goes nothing. I’m so nervous.”
She looks at me. Pauses and then says, “You’re a great presenter- you’re talented, and you can do this.”
I’m not repeating what she said to rub my own ego but rather to acknowledge her words and actions.
How many times has someone come to you with an insecurity and you’ve responded by:
A. Being annoyed assuming that they were seeking attention
B. By saying something like “you’re fine, stop.”
(Both of which are completely not comforting)
Let’s face it. We all feel anxious and insecure at some point in our lives. All of us. Sometimes in these moments we really just need positive affirmations.
So I encourage you next time someone comes to you with an insecurity or fear not to respond with:
“Shut up you’re not ____”
Instead, try positive reinforcements. It can feel like extra effort, but it’s worth it. These are phrases that sound like:
“You are worthy, and you will get through this. I believe in you”
“You’re intelligent, and you will figure it out”
“Your *insert body insecurity* is perfect the way it is”
It will make a world of a difference in that person’s day. It did for me.
Thanks for reading.